Gavin

MommyNoelle

DH told me today, "You know, I don't really like the name Gavin. Do you think we could change it?".

I just stared at him.

Than I began to think. While G.'s name was out of our control so it doesn't matter, I'm not the biggest fan of his name either.

Although I would have to do a LOT of thinking to ever consider changing it, what would you do?

DH has been pestering me about it. 

brown09

I wouldn't change it.  I actually like the name, but even if I didn't it would have to be detrimental to his future for me to change his name at 2.  Maybe he could go by his mn?

strangebird

Trauma can actually be associated with a name. If Gavin has dealt with a lot of trauma in his past, changing his name might actually help him move forward. I would consider it on those grounds, but probably not just because I didn't like the name. Try choosing another name and begin calling him by it--if it helps his demeanor, perhaps changing his name would be the right decision.

ETA: I would leave Gavin as his middle name, though. So he has that option to go by Gavin later, if he so chooses.

pitbull708

My DH was adopted at the age of 6 years old. My ILs changed his name, so he wouldnt associate it with a bad past. So, I suppose because it worked for DH and he is SO thankful for the name change, we would do the same thing, change the name, especially if we didn't love it. In fact, all DH's siblings are adopted and they all received new names. They are all thankful for that now as adults, but their names were a little more "out there" than Gavin.   Good luck with your decision!

starlight8323

Wow, this is so interesting. I never would have thought about what the PPs are talking about. I'm not sure what I would do in this situation. This would solve the middle name problem y'all were having though!

Good luck, I'd love to know how he reacts if you start callling him by another name as a test run. Please keep us updated!

PS: Gotta ask, how are the girls?