I will NEVER do that with my child!

mavs_girl07

Yaaay!  I love the "I will never!" posts from people who don't even have kids yet.  Always good for a laugh  

Jocelyn0415

mavs_girl07:

Yaaay!  I love the "I will never!" posts from people who don't even have kids yet.  Always good for a laugh  

This exactly.

mom2hay

JDO:

Well, other than the obvious of physical abuse like you pointed out (honestly I'm a little bothered you even have to put it out there that you won't ever pop your kid in the mouth)...

- I'll never put a kid leash on my kid

- I'll never take my kid out of the house unclothed (I hate seeing kids wearing nothing but diapers in public!)

-  I'll never let my kid cry for more than about a minute in a restaurant before going into the bathroom or going outside with them. It's unfair to the other customers. I'll also never let my kid throw food all over the floor at a restaurant then just expect the waitstaff to clean up after him. 

 

I agree with all of these, especially the clothing one.  I think people look so trashy having their kids out and about with just a diaper on.  

Mama_SAS

It is amazing that pet peeves are more important than kids' safety.

I can't believe that one would keep their dog safe by putting them on a leash but wouldn't do the same for their child.

 

boobgenie409

I see parents all the time 'cursing' their kids out when they're bad. It's so silly to do that to a child. I will never do that. DH and I don't ever use profanity, we agreed not to. Growing up we both came from old-school parents and that's just something - thankfully- we have in common.

CherryStarburst

CheyenneShaw:

OosumSauce:

Well the first thing the people in WalMart aren't the best social gage you can have. If you think I'm wrong well the go check out peopleofwalmart.com.

Second you can NEVER say never about anything. You really have no clue what you will do if something happens. What would you do if your child got all smart ass on you and called you a biitch or a fuucking cvnt. (And please don't say your child will never do that because you really don't know that.)

I know not only will my child get smacked in the mouth but will also get a royal beat down. You may ask why I know I'll do this bucase my darling loving child did decide to call me a biitch and that is exactly what I did. 

 

I guess i was more referring to the 0-12 age group? lol. my mom would hit me in the face for no reason, that would be my reasoning. But you are right (in the fact that i dont know what they will do or say) and i admire your words of wisdom.

WTF!? physical violence is never a good solution.  Do you think that giving your son/daughter a "beat down" it'll make them think of you as less of a fvvcking cvnt??  I'm pretty sure it would just make them resent you even more.

longingtoholdher2010

I will never assume that I will never do/say  something, because I have never been a parent before and I realize that I don't know everything. Better yet that I don't know anything. I agree with the person that said You're always the best parent until you become one. The I will never thing is one of those things you're gonna look back on  and and say WOW I was dumb before I became a parent. IMO

tarkimushroom

Mama_SAS:

It is amazing that pet peeves are more important than kids' safety.

I can't believe that one would keep their dog safe by putting them on a leash but wouldn't do the same for their child.

 

 

If it wasn't law, I would quite happily keep my dog off a leash. I feel comfortable in the level of control I have over him that he wouldn't run off. 

grnshdw

Mrslove78:

cinema_goddess:

I will never be the parent that says, "I will never..."

Yes, well...  with the exception of hitting her kid.  That is a NO-NO!!!

I always said I'll never use one of those backpacks with a leash...  my son is faster than me, and ran out in back of a car the other day...  luckily no one was backing up, but they could have.  He plays this "chase me" game.  If having him on a leach will keep him safe, that's what I'll have to do.  I don't want to, but it's off my "I will never" list now that I'm a Mom.

Don't judge until you've lived that moment. 

Our daughter thought it was a game to run in front of cars- we leashed her, it was terrible for us but we did it.   I have bad sciatic pain and could not keep up with her.

Kimee13

Mama_SAS:

It is amazing that pet peeves are more important than kids' safety.

I can't believe that one would keep their dog safe by putting them on a leash but wouldn't do the same for their child.

 

Children on leashes really aren't the norm(I've seen it about 20 times in my life) nor a law - to me, that just proves most parents are able to maintain control over their children.  Again, I believe there are special circumstances, but a leash shouldn't take over teaching your children how to behave.

 

Mt2G1012

ouraddress7:

CheyenneShaw:

OosumSauce:

Well the first thing the people in WalMart aren't the best social gage you can have. If you think I'm wrong well the go check out peopleofwalmart.com.

Second you can NEVER say never about anything. You really have no clue what you will do if something happens. What would you do if your child got all smart ass on you and called you a biitch or a fuucking cvnt. (And please don't say your child will never do that because you really don't know that.)

I know not only will my child get smacked in the mouth but will also get a royal beat down. You may ask why I know I'll do this bucase my darling loving child did decide to call me a biitch and that is exactly what I did. 

 

I guess i was more referring to the 0-12 age group? lol. my mom would hit me in the face for no reason, that would be my reasoning. But you are right (in the fact that i dont know what they will do or say) and i admire your words of wisdom.

WTF!? physical violence is never a good solution.  Do you think that giving your son/daughter a "beat down" it'll make them think of you as less of a fvvcking cvnt??  I'm pretty sure it would just make them resent you even more.

Totally late to this thread, but ITA.  It scares the crap out of me that no one here questioned the fact she beat her child.  I can say with all honesty that I will NEVER physically abuse my children.  (I am not talking about a light swat on the hand to redirect a young child) I work with victims of domestic violence every day.  If I knew this woman IRL who posted this, I would call CPS immediately.  This makes me really sad.

CherryStarburst

heatherm818:

ouraddress7:

CheyenneShaw:

OosumSauce:

Well the first thing the people in WalMart aren't the best social gage you can have. If you think I'm wrong well the go check out peopleofwalmart.com.

Second you can NEVER say never about anything. You really have no clue what you will do if something happens. What would you do if your child got all smart ass on you and called you a biitch or a fuucking cvnt. (And please don't say your child will never do that because you really don't know that.)

I know not only will my child get smacked in the mouth but will also get a royal beat down. You may ask why I know I'll do this bucase my darling loving child did decide to call me a biitch and that is exactly what I did. 

 

I guess i was more referring to the 0-12 age group? lol. my mom would hit me in the face for no reason, that would be my reasoning. But you are right (in the fact that i dont know what they will do or say) and i admire your words of wisdom.

WTF!? physical violence is never a good solution.  Do you think that giving your son/daughter a "beat down" it'll make them think of you as less of a fvvcking cvnt??  I'm pretty sure it would just make them resent you even more.

Totally late to this thread, but ITA.  It scares the crap out of me that no one here questioned the fact she beat her child.  I can say with all honesty that I will NEVER physically abuse my children.  (I am not talking about a light swat on the hand to redirect a young child) I work with victims of domestic violence every day.  If I knew this woman IRL who posted this, I would call CPS immediately.  This makes me really sad.

I don't know if anyone is still watching this thread but I really did find it disturbing that she admitted to beating her child and noone said anything- and actually some people were saying it was ok!  I don't care how old your child is or what they say to you it's never an excuse to use physical violence against them.  If a stranger called you a biitch you couldn't just beat them down or you would go to jail- why does it make a difference if it's your child or not?  Glad to see someone agrees with me- I was starting to get worried.

Mama_SAS

Kimee13:leash shouldn't take over teaching your children how to behave.

A leash should never take over teaching your children how to behave. You can teach a child while they are on a leash. Teach them to walk with you and hold your hand and listen to you while having a back up safety device. 

 

I don't think every child needs one but I do think judging people who use them is ignorant. If you look at me and my child you can't tell that I have a chronic pain disorder or that DS is has sensory integration issues.

Kimee13:most parents are able to maintain control over their children.  This is where my problem is. People judge based on the assumption that there must be something wrong with the parenting if they use a leash. You have no clue what their situation is.

Kimee13

Mama_SAS:

Kimee13:

leash shouldn't take over teaching your children how to behave.

A leash should never take over teaching your children how to behave. You can teach a child while they are on a leash. Teach them to walk with you and hold your hand and listen to you while having a back up safety device. 

 

I don't think every child needs one but I do think judging people who use them is ignorant. If you look at me and my child you can't tell that I have a chronic pain disorder or that DS is has sensory integration issues.

Kimee13:most parents are able to maintain control over their children.  This is where my problem is. People judge based on the assumption that there must be something wrong with the parenting if they use a leash. You have no clue what their situation is.

As I said in all of my posts, I DO understand when there are special circumstances when it is necessary, as in yours.  With that said, I still think using one simply because your child does not listen or is a "runner" is not a problem solver and can make matters worse by not dealing with the overall issue at hand. 

Do I judge parents when I their kid on a leash - nope, I simply said it's not a practice I would employ (and DH strongly agrees). It's truly not a sight I see often(and I shop at the biggest mall in america weekly), which in turn leads me to believe that there are plenty of other "safe" options of teaching children boundaries that while might not work for your situation works for plenty of others.   

Jessica1977

This is my only NEVER...

 I will NEVER put the needs of an animal (dog) before the needs of my child...  Speaking from personal experience, it is so damaging to know that your parents would rather put their efforts, energies and focus into dogs rather than their children.

Otherwise, we're flying by the seat of our pants and hoping for the best!  Looking forward to having a healthy and happy baby!!!

Jessica1977

Jessica1977:

This is my only NEVER...

 I will NEVER put the needs of an animal (dog) before the needs of my child...  Speaking from personal experience, it is so damaging to know that your parents would rather put their efforts, energies and focus into dogs rather than their children.

Otherwise, we're flying by the seat of our pants and hoping for the best!  Looking forward to having a healthy and happy baby!!!

 

I feel I should clarify - the other NEVER is the obvious, I will NEVER abuse my child either...