DD is almost 4.5. She destroys everything. Every doll's hair comes apart and is a rats nest. She has no regard for anything, it seems. I'm frustrated and at my wit's end, so this is a partial vent.
At what age did or do you expect your child to understand the value of items? I don't expect her to live in a museum, but at the same time, not everything has to be ripped apart, taken off, taken apart and ruined. I understand kids are curious, but where is the line between curious and being destructive for destruction sake?
I am starting a reward chart today. So far I have 1) make bed each morning 2) put breakfast dishes in sink 3) be nice to toys and 4) turn off light in room. I think #3 needs to be more specific; any ideas? My biggest issue is that she leaves her toys/crafts strewn all over the house, and I make her pick everything up. We've discussed when you leave a room, turn off the light and put items away. She thinks that if something gets destroyed (i.e. leaving markers out w/ lids off so they dry up), I'll buy a new one, even though I've specifically said no dice to that.
Sorry it got rambling, but I'm just so broken down about the constant sh!thole that is my house.
Re: Help. When did you child stop destroying everything?
My DD has never been too destructive. However, we recently started an allowance system for other reasons (behavior) and she has 3 simple chores to do each day (a dime for each) and 2 dimes up for grabs if she doesn't have tantrums.
She earned enough in a few months to buy something she really wanted and I can tell she takes special care of it because she worked for it.
Maybe something like that would help?
Christmas 2011
That only works on some kids my SD didnt care if she had nothing to play with. the last straw for me was i had a collectors princess of the world barbie and it was up on a REALLY tall shelf and one day while i was in the shower (after we had taken her toys away) she climbed up there and got the barbie and ruined it. she was 4.5 and both me and her daddy were steamed to put it nicly but you know what? she hasnt done anything like tha since.
Does she have things she can take apart and play rough with (legos, playdough, outside toys)? Maybe she needs you to explain clearly -explain which toys need careful handling and how to take good care of them.
A chart can be good for some children but it sounds like maybe you're trying to accomplish everything at once. You might find it works better if you focus on one thing at a time.
she has legos and plenty of stuff outside. She took a philips screwdriver and screwed in screws for hours last weekend to some extra wood. She digs in the garden, has a sand box, etc.
I talked to her before nap time. She got her Jasmine doll and a book taken away. I need to keep on it.
I guess I feel out of control with the house. I'm not making dinners like I used to, and the place is a mess a lot of the time. I sit on the couch feeding DS, see the mess and blow my lid. I feel like we need to get back to how we used to keep house, kwim? Like a family makeover. I figure if I go into to forcing myself to do better, it will be second nature in a few months. Kinda like adding working out to your routine.
Christmas 2011