I've mentioned before that my MIL loathes me and doesn't like DH either. She's never been given a reason, or any that I know of. DH got a phone call at around lunch today from his dad to tell him his mom was out of surgery. His mom had a pre-scheduled surgery this morning. FIL told DH that he had been telling MIL to call us and he thought she had finally called us in the past few days, which of course she hadn't. She'll be in the hospital until atleast Monday. FIL was wondering if/when we'd be going to visit her. She's morbidly obese so any and all surgeries are riskier.
A massive part of me says don't go at all. I know we probably should go to prevent any horrible regrets but I don't feel much obligation. I don't know if DH wants to and I'll likely leave that decision up to him but I'm positive he'll want my input. Does not going make us childish or at her level? I hate that she's so horrible to DH. It upsets me normally but now that I'm hormonal, it's just heart wrenching...
Re: How to deal with in-law situation
When people, especially family and loved ones, aren't acting very kind to us, God asks us to love them more, and pray for them, in return. It's hard sometimes, but worth it. I personally think not showing up at all would be a bit childish. If you don't feel inclined to go, then I'd use PP's suggestion below in order to help make your decision.
DH called his mother, she wasn't interested in talking to him. We may go tomorrow evening though.
Thanks again for your input!!
I would go, or at least call. It will kill you to do, probably. However, the feeling that you were the bigger person in the situation, will probably make you feel pretty good afterwards.