So tomorrow I have to brave work. sigh. ER Sunday - no heartbeat and us heart-broken. Confirmation of loss Monday - our precious baby was only measuring 7 weeks at 10 wk 1 day. D&E Tuesday. It all happened so fast.
I am dreading tomorrow. No one knew yet I was pregnant - I'm scared to face my co-workers as I know they'll ask why I've been out. Many, I don't care to tell. Close friends, I would, but I know I can't without breaking down. I really would rather just stay at home...for good. I can't imagine being productive...
Any tips on how you survived the first day, first week back?
Re: Back to work...sigh...any tips?
BFP#1: 7/23/10, EDD 4/1/11, MC/DNC 9/29/10(14wks)
BFP#2: 1/12/11 CP (6 Weeks)
BFP#3: 6/26/11, EDD 3/4/12, Natural MC 8/5/11 (10wks)
I agree with nikki - i know it's so hard to talk about and what you really want to do is tell them to buzz off... but I think you'll feel better in the long run if you are honest and just get it out in the open. It's okay to break down - I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I hope you find a surprising amount of wonderful support.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss & I can relate to your struggle going back to work. My first day back was today, and I ended up leaving. My advice to you is to honor your feelings & do what feels right to you. I thought I was ready to go back, but about 10 minutes into being at work, I broke down crying. Luckily, I have a supportive group of colleagues & principal, and they all encouraged me to go home. In that sense, being honest with your co-workers can really pay off in terms of getting what you need from them.
I hope your day went ok, and best wishes with the recovery process (both physically & mentally).
I am so very sorry for your loss.
I would do whatever feels best for your, only you know what you can and cannot handle right now - don't push yourself too much before your ready. The healing process takes time.
((hugs)) i am sharing your rough day along with you. i work in a small dental office and everyone knew. i'm sitting here waiting for them all to come in and give me "the look"....i don't know how i'll react to that look.
i have to wait a week to see if my cycle starts or else have a d&c. so i'm back to work not even a full day after finding out it happened.
love out to you
Oh... I hate that you have to go back! I really considered quiting my job and wish I had. Almost everyone knew I was pregnant. When I called in to tell them I wasn't comming back after my u/s on 9/14, my boss went around the office and told everyone what happened (there are approx. 50 people in our office). My first day back was Monday and it was horrible! I wish people didn't know!! The "sad faces" are really hard to deal with. If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't have told anyone I was pregnant, and would have kept the details to myself when I returned. GL! I still cry a couple of times a day, when someone feels the need to tell me they are sorry, or when I run into a pregnant co-worker. Each day is a little easier, but I don't know when there will be a day with no tears.
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b2b Injectable IUI #2 12/5/10 & 12/6/10 = BFN
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