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New_MrsP
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MIL stole my FB profile pic!
New_MrsP
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So I log on to FB and see that MIL has changed her profile pic to this:
Yup...HER profile pic is my 3D ultrasound. Which she took from either my or DHs FB albums.
This really annoys me. It's yet another example of this being HER baby. I only wish I could say something. But DH would get mad at me.
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Re: MIL stole my FB profile pic!
ditto. H will get over it.
This would more than likely work. That's just as bad as her plastering your face all over FB right after you've had the baby! She should be asking if it's ok.
Thank you guys for making me feel less crazy/hormonal/biitchy. It just irks me, especially since DH posted that picture way back in August, and she's only using it now to AW to all her friends, along with the status "Counting the days now. Our grandson is due in 13 days."
At least she said "our grandson" and not "my baby". lol I (personally, this may not be true for you) wouldn't mind if she had just posted the picture on her page because she is proud....but as her profile pic...um yea.
Personally, I don't think it's that big of a deal. We made copies of our ultrasound pics and gave them to both sets of grandparents, with the expectation that they'd show them to all their friends. This seems like the digital version of that. You have to realize that once you share something on Facebook, it's out of your hands. Anyone else who has access can now do whatever they want with it.
And it should be flattering that she's so excited. Wouldn't you rather that than have her not care about your pregnancy?
It's not that she reposted the picture, it's that she's using it as her profile picture. If she had just done it as a wall post or something it wouldn't be so bad, but generally your profile picture is a picture of you.
I have 3 comments to this:
1. 3d u/s pictures should not be FB profile pics...not a MIL or yours.
2. This is why I am not friends with my MIL or any of her family on FB.
3. You have every right to ask her to take it down and should not feel bad about that at all. She may try to do this with real pictures when baby comes. If you are not OK with that either, you may want to let her know of that now. I am not OK with other people sharing pics of my kid on their FB page!
I agree wholeheartedly with 3. I (think) I have set my privacy pretty well, but if MIL hasn't then lots of people can see my child and I'm not ok with that. There are crazies out there!!
Agreed... anyone could see my pictures from my profile, but I enjoy the false sense of security I have knowing that my privacy settings are set to only MY friends being able to see my pictures. My aunt tried to 'steal' my pictures all the time, had to put a stop to this. I don't know her friends, and she friends EVERYBODY, so I told her to leave my FB pics alone.
Yes!!! When I told my mom to take pics of Haley off her FB page, she told me I was a selfish biitch and that there weren't internet predators. Her page was completely open with personal info all over it. PLUS my step-dad was murdered a few yrs ago and it is still unsolved so that adds worry to me about having TMI out there.
I think her status (excited about the birth of my grandson...) is fine. It is a huge event and if anything deserves a "status" it is that.
As for the picture... eh... My mom posts pictures of my DD occasionally as her profile picture. I don't care. She is a proud grandma and wants to show her off. An ultrasound picture my creep me out a little bit though...
Try to pick your battles. I can tell you are feeling very mama-bear and that is normal. But new babies are exciting and she genuinely is just excited.
I made my mother give me her password so that I can make sure the privacy is on all the photos of DS. She can't figure out how to do it apparently.
I also keep reminding her that this is my news to share or announce on FB, not hers. I said this with announcing my pregnancy, that we're having a girl, and I will remind her when I give birth.
I asked her several times to change her page to private and she just flat out refused. We don't have a good relationship and it goes way beyond stupid stuff like that.
You can't control what other people do. You shouldn't even try, because you won't succeed and it will make you frustrated and stressed. Instead, focus on what you can control: your own actions.
Just like you wouldn't keep sharing personal information with a friend who goes on to blab to the whole town, don't put make things available on FB to people who don't regard privacy in the same way you do.
If you put it on FB, it's on the internet for the world to see. If you don't want it out there, DON'T POST IT!
If I cared (I don't), I could copy your pic that you posted on here & put it on my FB page. Even with privacy settings, your "friends" can copy & share them without your consent since YOU made them public. I don't buy that you're so upset if you're reposting it on here.
I understand being annoyed, but it seems as if moms are acting like their child is some celebrity who owns all rights to their image.
Um, I'm just annoyed that she's once again acting like this is her pregnancy. I already said that it wouldn't be a big deal if she'd reposted the image on her wall or in an album, but I don't like that it's her profile picture, which is usually a picture of you.
This is a stupid argument. People post pictures of their cats, dogs, flowers, whatever as profile pics all the time. You yourself said that the US pic was your profile picture first! And how is posting a picture acting like it's her pregnancy? She labeled it as "grandson" not "my baby".