totally a bad friend

Kitiara5512

I feel like I am being a bad friend, or at least petty, but still havent been able to change the way I feel.

DH's BFF's little sister got pg about the same time as me. She was with a guy she had only been dating for a while and she was bored enough to where she was talking to me about her wanting to break it off with him and thats why she didnt bring him to a family event and she hadnt talked to him in a few days. They decided to stick it out together and got married in August (did I mention he is on disability and doesnt work? at least the baby will have a stay at home dad that they can count on being there and dont have to worry about day care costs) and she was supposed to be induced on 10/11 (before her due date) so that she could have her own doc instead of one of the others in the practice or the on call. Her water broke today.

I am soooooo cranky about it because I am the one who wanted a baby enough to try for one for over 8 months and have been having mild to mediumish contractions steadily since 230 Sunday morning and still sitting at 2 cm and will have to wait it out before going into labor, and the person who did not want a baby at all and got stuck with one (although she is happy about it now) gets to have hers already.

She and I are okay friends, and I really wish the best for her, but right now I am so jealous and frustrated that I wanna cry.

wife1014

wow!  You are upset and jealous because someone is having their baby before you.  It's not a race...  Whether she wanted this child or not, she is having a baby.  Does it really matter she will be first and you are still pregnant? 

Chick7806

wife1014:

wow!  You are upset and jealous because someone is having their baby before you.  It's not a race...  Whether she wanted this child or not, she is having a baby.  Does it really matter she will be first and you are still pregnant? 

This. Just relax. It's not like she's purposely stealing your thunder- her flipping water broke. Not exactly her fault. And just because you tried longer/harder to have a baby doesn't make hers any less worth it.

Although, on second thought, I guess you did say you were a bad friend...  

[Deleted User]

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

wife1014

kgorman:

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

Now, why didn't I think of that 

Chick7806

kgorman:

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

This sarcasm was so well worded that I was taking you seriously for the first few lines! You = talented (and I'm not being sarcastic). : ))  

[Deleted User]

wife1014:

kgorman:

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

Now, why didn't I think of that 

I forget the vendor name now, but they have some really nice ones on Etsy! 

wife1014

kgorman:

wife1014:

kgorman:

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

Now, why didn't I think of that 

I forget the vendor name now, but they have some really nice ones on Etsy! 

LMAO!!!!

happyhoopla

Kitiara0364:

I feel like I am being a bad friend, or at least petty, but still havent been able to change the way I feel.

DH's BFF's little sister got pg about the same time as me. She was with a guy she had only been dating for a while and she was bored enough to where she was talking to me about her wanting to break it off with him and thats why she didnt bring him to a family event and she hadnt talked to him in a few days. They decided to stick it out together and got married in August (did I mention he is on disability and doesnt work? at least the baby will have a stay at home dad that they can count on being there and dont have to worry about day care costs) and she was supposed to be induced on 10/11 (before her due date) so that she could have her own doc instead of one of the others in the practice or the on call. Her water broke today.

I am soooooo cranky about it because I am the one who wanted a baby enough to try for one for over 8 months and have been having mild to mediumish contractions steadily since 230 Sunday morning and still sitting at 2 cm and will have to wait it out before going into labor, and the person who did not want a baby at all and got stuck with one (although she is happy about it now) gets to have hers already.

She and I are okay friends, and I really wish the best for her, but right now I am so jealous and frustrated that I wanna cry.

 

Mmm-k. So, going with your logic, I should be horribly jealous and angry with you for only having to try for 8 months and then having a healthy pregnancy. I've been at this for over 3 years (fairly short-term in IF land) and have lost 5 babies. But, since I also realize that this is NOT a competition and each person is going through their own process to become a parent, I don't have any ill feelings towards you. You need to get over it and just embrace your own pregnancy....don't worry what some other chick is doing. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and congratulations on your little one.

mamafoxX2

I am sort of in the same boat as you, and I feel horribly about it.

Mine was a planned pregnancy and DH's cousin's was not so much (she is on/off relationship with the dad of her baby).  Now I am overdue by a few days and she is being induced early and I feel so jealous because she is probably having her kid first.

Petty- yes. I admit it.  But, for some reason, I can't shake the feeling. Sorry.

 

gracelord121809

I totally understand becoming the green eyed monster because you are also ready to hold your baby in your arms but jeezum. Hating her for how she got pregnant... why dont you consider how she feels about the situation? Yes, she may be happy she is a mommy now but did you ever consider how hard those circumstances may have been on your "friend"?

qme09

kgorman:

Oh, I'd be totally p!ssed too.  This checker at our regular store had her kid a month or so ago.  She's not married or anything!  I almost called her out on it too last time I was there, but there was a line so I will wait until next time.

I'd say go get a very large cork & visit your friend.  Just casually ask to see her vag (you know, so you can SEE her progress), then pop that cork in & she'll stay pregnant for quite some time.  Just make sure it's big enough.  And since she's having contractions, she probably won't even notice that you put it in either!  It's a win-win.

I thought you were serious for a minute, you had me going with the first paragraph.  i feel dumb.

Kitiara5512

Lol. Sometimes I just need to be able to vent or whine, then pull my head out of my ass and get over it. I figure if we arent that good friends and she is texting me to say how far along she is and stuff, she has got to be feeling kinda lonely or wanting some understanding. I already texted her to say I was looking forward to the play dates and that its kinda cool our kids will have birthdays closer together. I figure if I can fake Os when I was dating my ex, I can fake cheerful and excited to make a friend feel better.

Thanks for the refreshing slap in the face to help me get my priorities right.