Am I just being a nervous freak?

naponte

This is my first baby, and she's due December 8 right in time for her first christmas, which is great, but for some reason that I can't clearly explain, whenever I think about all our family members (mine and my fiance's)  holding our newborn baby and passing her around I get so anxious!!  I'm pretty sure everyone will want to hold her and I wouldn't know how to say no without seeming unreasonable or if that would be totally rediculous of me...??? To me, I feel it's my baby and if I still feel this way when she's here then I of course have the right to not let people hold her if I don't feel comfortable with it but I dont want to offend any family members and I don't want to seem like an over protective wacko.

has anyone else felt this way? what did you do about it?

grnshdw

I was suprised how many people had very little interest in holding my babies- inluding relatives.

Sweets2005

I somewhat agree with the PP, not as many people wanted to hold the baby as I expected. But also, when LO is here, you probably won't feel the same way. I imagined I would be a mama bear protecting her cubs but really I was glad for the little break and if I wanted LOs back, I just took them back!

JoannaJes

I agree with both PPs...not as many people will want to hold your LO, and you may not feel the same way once they are born. Try not to overthink it until you are actually in the situation.

p&rmetz

If you still feel this way after LO has arrived (like I did) limit the visitors for the first week to two weeks. You'll definitely get more comfortable with it once LO is a little older and you've had plenty of time for snuggles. I was scared sh**less about letting family members hold LO at first but after about the first two weeks it got better. I still don't like her being passed around the room like a football and usually won't allow that, but it does get easier. 

blondek8

Not ridiculous. The bought of my MIL holding my babies makes me want to spit nails right now. I'm sure I'll get over it once the babies arrive but DH has also said at any point in time that I've had enough of people visiting/holding babies, he'd bounce them out of the house. He's feeling a little bit like a protective bear when it comes to the twins and I lately. I appreciate it though b/c I have little patience for his mother even at the best of times.

gracelord121809

My MIL plans on having 10-15 people from my husbands side of the family at the hospital when I go into labor. These people have informed me of their intent to show up like they are rsvping for an fing party. Now all of those people plan on holding our son hours after he is born. Needless to say I am not thrilled especially since alot of them smoke. Honestly I plan on just growing a pair. I've already informed people that if they plan on showing up they better not smoke before hand and they are washing their hands at the hospital. They laugh.... and I just ask them whats funny. If they dont listen come the day of they will be asked to leave. If people think its witchy oh well, my sons health is more important then their opinion.

 

Acendaneil

My cousin had her baby towards the beginning of this year.  She stopped by our grandma's one day while she was in the area and asked if I wanted to hold her baby.  I said no.  I am just not comfortable (at least yet) with holding fresh little human beings.  I too, think that most people won't want to hold her. 

But no, I don't think you're being a nervous freak.   

nosoup4u

Get a baby wrap or a sling to use when your family's around - it's okay to be paranoid about people breathing on your newborn, especially in the wintertime.