Do you dwell on things??

dbertagni

Two things happened to me, one last week where Jocelyn was hit over the head during a music class, and one this week regarding a phone call I got.

I have a really hard time NOT dwelling on things, and I have been that way all my life. I think about things that happened (usually bad or stressful) and can't sleep, and just rehash the situation over and over in my mind. Even if it really doesn't matter to me all that much, it just seems like I can't turn my brain off.  I wish I wasn't a worrier or a dweller, is that just normal, or I am I out of the norm?

aubreysmom1

I am the same exact way...and ever since I had DD, it has only gotten worse! My DH always tells me not to worry and that I always make a bigger deal in my head than what it is, but I can't *help* it!!! I know that when I used to work out/run on a daily basis, I didn't let things bother me quite as bad as I do now...

becki777

Yes, I tend to be pretty obsessive about things. I have a hard time dropping things (like the drama I posted about my friend's wedding) and tend to mull over them constantly. I know it's a bad thing because it can really eat me up and make me feel so crabby/down/annoyed.

The other night I couldn't fall asleep because a friend deleted her Facebook after we had a touchy conversation. One thing had nothing to do with the other, but I was so sure it did and I was upset. Over nothing. 

I try really hard to remind myself to let go, and focus on more positive things. 

cate1119

Nope - not anymore.  I used to dwell on things, mull over different scenarios and make myself crazy.  I would overanalyze every situation, tone of voice, etc.  Now - I just let it roll.  I had a few life changing events that happened and make me realize that in the grand scheme of things - is it worth it to be like this.  I usually say to myself...will the world stop spinning if I don't do x or if x is mad at me etc...

I will say sometimes now I take it to the extrememe, but I'm getting better at finding that balance. 

Temp782982187506089

No, not anymore.  I used to dwell or let things get to me, but it made me so anxious or upset that I just can't anymore.  Unless it is a HUGE deal concerning my child or my marriage/family, I don't let it get to me.  Life's too short to waste worrying about little things.  I know it is easier said than done (believe me), but I feel so much better now that I brush it off.

jenhum

I do dwell on things, but I'm getting a lot better about it. It's harder for me to shake things off when they involve Maddie though.

lalabee0425

I definitely do when it comes to certain things. The baby and Keira get the brunt of my obsessing thoughts! It's hard to let things go when it comes to your kid. I used to obsess over other things, what people said to me, etc. but I don't anymore. It took a long time but I have learned to let go of a lot!

Heels.Fan03

Yes - especially when it comes to Jack. I've tried to let some things go...ask myself it really matters in the grand scheme of things, especially as long as he is healthy, happy, etc. But, there are some things I just can't get past right away, so I have to kind of let them play through my mind until I'm "over it".

SpeedGlenn

I don't dwell on ridiculous things or ridiculous people.

I do dwell on things with Ben - my parenting mistakes or his behavior issues or whatever. But I think that's completely normal.

starz080

Yep, I'm guilty of dwelling on stupid stuff.  I have gotten better about it and I'm going to make more of an effort of brushing stuff off.