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mayowife

I posted recently and was so grateful to see your responses. Today I met with MFM and had a third u/s. I was alone at the appointment and honestly most of the information I received is a blur. Baby A is doing well. Baby B has a weak, irregular heartbeat and will not continue to develop. Baby C does not have a heartbeat.

I'm afraid to post on the miscarriage board. I do not want to be insensitive considering I still have one strong, healthy baby.

Has anyone been through this? I know a bit about pregnancy loss when there is one baby, but what will it be like since I am still pregnant? I will see my OB next week and MFM in two weeks. They are great and I know they will answer my questions, but my mind is wondering now. It was just so hard to listen or ask anything today face to face.

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i'm so sorry for your loss... that is rough.  I know that disappearing twins (and triplets) is pretty common - there are many on SAIF, since usually only IF women are the ones that even know it happens b/c it's usually early on. A good friend of mine had a disappearing twin.

I do know that it does not increase the risk to the baby still growing  - usually there are no problems after the body absorbs them.

prayers to you for healing... and a safe 9mo with your LO.  You're always a MoM - you have felt the love for 3 in your belly, even if for a short time- it's there. We're here if you need us!

(((HUGS)))

ougrad1

I was one of the original posters on the loss board and I think that if you feel like you need the support of those ladies, it's completely okay to post there.  They are so supportive!  

I'm so sorry for your loss.  It sounds like Baby A is doing wonderfully...

 

Chickandtaco

I'm so sorry to hear this   Did they tell you what to expect about baby B and C?  My husband is the result of a dissapering twin pregnancy.  He went on to grow strong and healthy.  Grieve for the other two and try to stay strong for baby A.  And I agree, post in the miscarriage group if you feel you need the support.  I found a lot of comfort in talking to others who had TRULY been there when I lost my first son.    <HUGS>

macchiatto

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't help answer your questions, but I just wanted to say I am sorry for your losses, and send thoughts and prayers for continued health for you and Baby A.

GiGi1221

Goldie said it best.  Thoughts and prayers to you.

MrsKario

Im so sorry for your losses.  It certainly is a mixed emotion - extreme joy for baby A but extreme sadness for your other two.  I had a vanishing triplet with this preg.  At my first U/S there were three sacs but the third sac was already shrinking.  Allow yourself time to grieve these losses. 

I posted on the miscarriage board and found the group there to be wonderful and supportive.  I really dont think you would be insensitive to post there - you are going through two losses. 

Sending bigs hugs and congratulations for baby A. 

MommyNoelle

I'm so sorry for your losses!!

I've lost 4+ babies in the past years, and this breaks my heart because it's such a hard thing.

Baby A will be blessed with two angels to look after him/her :')

PM if you need to talk. 

pea-kay

oh no, i'm so sorry to hear this. you and baby A will be in my thoughts.

busybea

I am so sorry to hear this ... my thoughts and prayers are with you ..

TheNewFry

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I will be keeping you in my T&Ps.

yesthisiskim

I am tearfully responding to this. I am so sorry for you loss and I can feel your pain. If I could hug you right now, I would. Yesterday they discovered that my Baby B no longer had a heartbeat and stopped living about 3 weeks ago. I was never told to be "expecting" this from my sweet, tiny Baby B. I am so happy to still have my wonderful, adorable and most importantly healthy Baby A. But a loss, is a loss and I will always mourn the loss of my innocent Baby B that I got the pleasure of loving and carrying for those short but oh so sweet 9 weeks.

Please, feel free to contact me. I am again so sorry for your losses and I will pray for nothing but the best for both of our survivor Baby A's.

RedWingsFan

I'm so sorry to hear about Babies B and C, but am very happy that Baby A is going strong.  I agree with the PPs - take the time to grieve over these losses, know that you will always be a MoM, and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy with your strong Baby A. 

I also think the women on the M and PL board will be very supportive to you - although you are still pregnant, you've suffered losses as well, and I'm sure they will be very supportive and understanding.

Giant hugs to you, and I wish you the best with your pregnancy.

SoldiersGreenBean

I'm sorry for your loss.

mayowife

I just wanted to tearfully say thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart. For those of you who have also experienced a loss thank you for sharing your difficult experiences and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as well.

madybug

i just wanted to say that I had triplets and lost two at about 8-9 weeks. The doctors told me that the 1 healthy baby should be fine  and the two losses should pose no risk to the other since it was early.  I had no pain or bleeding w/ the loss. Today I am 18 weeks and my baby is doing great. I understand the sadness you feel for the loss of two but still having joy for one. (((HUGS)))

Skatcat

I'm very late to this thread, but I lost a Baby C at around the same time (maybe 9 weeks). We knew it was most likely coming because "Baby C" was so much smaller and less developed then A & B.  The RE wasn't concerned and said it would "resolve itself." I had some bleeding and that was it.

 I'm very sorry for your loss!