Poll: Do you feel entitled?

queenbone

This is aimed at no one in particular, but I have noticed that some women respond that they feel like their vote counts more because they carried the baby for 9 months.  I am curious, are they serious or kidding around?
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strangebird

Very interesting poll! I can't say that I've noticed that attitude, but I am not at all surprised to hear that some are expressing such a belief. For myself, I don't think that my vote counts for more than my husband's . . . but, I also have the kind of husband that would defer to my desire if I really loved a name (even if he hated it).

I think it might be difficult for someone in my position to see how the shoe feels on the other foot--I know I'm constantly thanking my husband for his neutrality when I read post after post here regarding everything from the baby's name to what color the nursery can be painted, diapering preferences and, for heaven's sake, whether the baby will be clothed or nude in it's first photographs.

I may be mistaken, but it seems most people are going to agree with me that their husband's opinions count just as much as their own when they stop to think about it, but it's all too easy to play the "gestation" card when you find yourself unable to come to some sort of agreement.

JaysonandKristin

strangebird:

Very interesting poll! I can't say that I've noticed that attitude, but I am not at all surprised to hear that some are expressing such a belief. For myself, I don't think that my vote counts for more than my husband's . . . but, I also have the kind of husband that would defer to my desire if I really loved a name (even if he hated it).

I think it might be difficult for someone in my position to see how the shoe feels on the other foot--I know I'm constantly thanking my husband for his neutrality when I read post after post here regarding everything from the baby's name to what color the nursery can be painted, diapering preferences and, for heaven's sake, whether the baby will be clothed or nude in it's first photographs.

I may be mistaken, but it seems most people are going to agree with me that their husband's opinions count just as much as their own when they stop to think about it, but it's all too easy to play the "gestation" card when you find yourself unable to come to some sort of agreement.

Agreed.  I think the "gestation" card is for ice cream trips in the middle of the night, but that's about it! 

Mama_SAS

*IF* we absolutely couldn't agree on a name I would try to play that card and see where it got me. I don't feel entitled but I would try it if necessary.

Luckily we totally agree on names. 

Smootchy

I voted no. I do not think I'm entitled to pick a name for a child me and my husband share.. Although, I may have a stronger veto power then he does

CrazyToast

I voted NO.

I had to add a thought...

My DH has a hyphenated last name (his mother kept her name).  When we got married I decided I didn't want a hyphenated name that wasn't any part of mine, so I kept my name.  DH didn't care. 

When we knew we were having a baby, we went through a lot of talking about names.  I finally realized DH really wanted our child to have his last names - so I told him ok, only if I had final say on the first name.  He said that was completely fair.  He also wanted our child to have my last name as their middle name.  It worked out great for us, but that's how our relationship works.

MommyNoelle

It takes two to tango, and two to name a baby. There's no one person doing all the work.

FemmeNat01

Nope! It's his kids too! I am glad that Nate defers to me and he's pretty easy to please with names!

elfgirl11

no, but someone...oh the OB! told me that I get two votes and hubby gets one!!!

I've also heard that if there is a debate, that after witnessing you give birth hubby will let you pick the name LOL!

my hubby's uncle left the room to get a snack before his son was born....and came back to find his son with a completely different name than they had agreed upon!!! 

Allie30

I voted yes. Not just because of the "gestation" factor but also the last name factor.She's getting his last name -- I should have more say in the first.

I'm with her all day long, and I'm SUCH a skeptic and I do NOT believe in any kind of strange psychic connection with my fetus or anything like that, but it's weird that I have a gut feeling about which nickname for her name we should use -- and it isn't even the one that made me want to name her that in the first place!

We both have veto power, of course, and I'm not saying I get all the say, but yeah, I'd say my vote counts more. 

Jennis22

I'm indecisive and could probably never pick out a name, so I like the system we worked out. I put together lists of about 25 names (one for boys and one for girls) I liked and he picked from them. That way we weren't fighting about names because I obviously liked them all and he got to pick the actual names out. :-)

 

anna7602

To an extent, yes, but not because I carried the baby. Since we both decided the baby would have DH's last name, I felt "entitled" to give our children names that honor my heritage (DH has a pretty ethnic last name himself). That feels pretty 50/50 to me, if 50% of a person's name is their first name and 50% is their last name. DH agreed with my reasoning, so I'm not sure that really counts as my feeling "entitled."