Mom changed my mind completely...

heehee611

My son was in his crib at 7 weeks.  You will never again sleep as deeply as you do now.  In nearly 3 years, I can count on one hand the number of times that DH heard Brendan over the monitor and I did not wake up.  If you're really paranoid about it, get a video monitor so you can see baby!  I am a firm believer that having baby in your room that long (seriously, until they're 2?!?) will kill your sex life and your marriage, and it is completely unnecessary.

knvalen

My baby's crib is actually set up right next to our bed. He will be in there until I fill fit he is able to be in his own room, but not for quite sometime.

~adamwife~

I sleep in the same room with my babies for no other reason than the fact that I am lazy.  When you're BFing it is much easier to roll over and pop a boob in the baby's mouth and then roll back over to fall asleep then have to walk to the nursery to get the baby every two hours.  I co-sleep until my babies are old enough to STTN.

on_the_move

DS was only in our room for about a night.  We would wake up at every breath he took and he was a light sleeper and would wake whenever we moved.  We all slept much better when he was in his room.  The moniter is pretty sensitive and I was never concerned that I wouldn't hear any issue he had.

TiffanyTheMom

With my first baby, he stayed in our room for the first week, then on to his room. With our second baby, I had her in with me for the first 2 or 3 months. We plan on having the baby in for 2 or 3 months also, 3 months max.

I agree with poster who said it doesn't really make a difference where the baby is sleeping because being in your room isn't going to reduce SIDs. In fact, I've found it's harder for you to sleep because you're so worried about hearing the baby sleeping or not, and it's actually vice versa! If the baby hears you moving around, he/she'll have a hard time sleeping too. Just because your baby wakes at night doesn't mean you have to pick them up. I only picked mine up at night if they NEEDED it- feeding, change, burping, calming, etc. If they just wanted to play (like they did at 5-6 months) I'd let them tucker themselves out. Who can sleep with a 1yr old in your room wanting to play at night?? 

UrbanHippieMama

We just moved DD out of our bed a couple weeks ago, right before she turned 14 months.  She's in her own room now, and the transition went great.  We didn't plan to bedshare that long, but it's what worked best for all of us.

With LOs you really have to play it by ear!  Some want/need to be close to their parents for longer than others.  Don't let your mom scare you.  Do what works best for your baby.

Disneygeek77

mavs_girl07:

Sorry, but IMO your mom is being totally ridiculous.  You cannot live like that, you'll freak yourself out over everything!!  DD slept in our room in a pack n play for the first 2 months, then we moved her to her own room.  After that she started sleeping better and so did we.  The video monitor we have is very sensitive, I can even hear dd rustling her sheets when she's moving around.  We're planning on doing the same with this baby, maybe even move him a little earlier depending on how well he's sleeping.  DD's room is across the hall from the nursery, so I don't want to move him in there when he's still waking several times a night because I don't want her woken up. 

But seriously...your mom needs to get a grip and you need to make your own choices as a parent.   

I agree with this.  I mean your baby is going to take naps too isn't it.  Are you going to be in the room the entire time  watching the baby nap?  Of course not.  I mean sometimes you might nap but sometimes you will be doing chores or just relaxing.  It is the same thing.  Besides, that is what monitors are for. 

UrbanHippieMama

TiffanyTheMom:

I agree with poster who said it doesn't really make a difference where the baby is sleeping because being in your room isn't going to reduce SIDs. In fact, I've found it's harder for you to sleep because you're so worried about hearing the baby sleeping or not, and it's actually vice versa! If the baby hears you moving around, he/she'll have a hard time sleeping too. Just because your baby wakes at night doesn't mean you have to pick them up. I only picked mine up at night if they NEEDED it- feeding, change, burping, calming, etc. If they just wanted to play (like they did at 5-6 months) I'd let them tucker themselves out. Who can sleep with a 1yr old in your room wanting to play at night?? 

I just wanted to point out that sleeping in the same room as ones parents does reduce the risk of SIDs.  But again, you have to do what you're comfortable with!

applepear12

thanks ladys. I think ill start with the crib in our room we have more than enough space for it then once i see that baby is STTN ill change it over to the other room which is across the hall. My SS is 5 and i dont want to keep him up with to much crying. But ill still register for that baby monitor i know ill use it. I think mom just has her old fashioned ways about her. She was really surprised about my decision to not have the baby in my room for too long.

Basically ill just wait and see how things go.

flowerchild77

My dd has coslept from day 1. We didnt plan on cosleeping, but everytime I tried to put her in her cradle she would wake up adn scream and scream, I finally laid her next to me and went to sleep. Thats where shes been ever since.

Me and my dh have LOVED having her in bed with us, we're planning on cosleeping with the new baby too.

bikernun

First grandbaby? With my two I had them in the room with me for the first three months but that was our personal preference. I think you should do what you feel comfortable with.