2nd babies

bellasmom1115

I really would like to have a second baby. I am unsure of how far apart to have them. A few friends are pregnant now with their second and their first isn't even a year yet! That seems too close. What are all your opinions on this?

ariel06

Mine are two year and 5 days apart.  So far I'm thinking it's a pretty good amount for age differences.  DS#1 is very verbal so it's nice that he can tells us what he wants.  We're also getting close to only having one in diapers.    I think there's probably good and bad in going less and more than that.

mbgreenwalt

I will not even be thinking about #2 until at least next August.  I am not interested in having 2 under 2.  2.5-3 years is a good separation for me.  I'm hoping to potty train DD before #2 comes along.

JosiePosy

I didn't get a vote on this one.

FannieRae

Mine are almost exactly 3 yrs apart. My first is very verbal and independent, plus was out of diapers before the second came along. The first also goes to preschool two mornings a week, so I get some alone time with the little one. It's been a perfect spacing for us, but I think people make it work whatever the spacing between their kids is. From what I hear, 2 under 2 is tough the first year and then the kids become little buddies. My older one spends a lot of time entertaining the little one, but they obviously aren't too interested in the same things.

sbabe214

Honestly, I don't think there is a good/bad choice as to when to have another. There are always going to be pros & cons. Personally, 2.5-3 year age difference seems perfect to me. That way DS will be mobile, talking, hopefully potty trained - or at least working on it. My brother & I are almost exactly 2.5 years apart, so maybe that's one of the reasons I really like that age difference.

angel1015

I am probably leaning more towards 2.5 - 3 years, DH would love for me to be pregnant right now!!  We'll probably start trying around the beginning of the year, DD will be 2 in April.

mrs.bridgettkay

My LOs are 18 months apart.  I think there are pros/cons to any age seperation.  DD loves DS and she great with him when he arrived.  I think because of her age she didn't feel jealously.  2 under 2 is a lot of work since you can't reason with DD at this age and she isn't overly verbal.  But we chose to have them this close in the hopes they would grow up with having a playmate in each other.  I'm sure they'll have a love/hate relationship too.  I also like getting the baby stage done close together.  It'll make it a little easier for us as the kids get older and we can travel.  I wouldn't change the spacing but I guess I don't know it any other way!

MrsAshley16

My girls are just under 19 months apart. #2 was planned, but we never imagined it would happen so fast. We were extremely nervous about it. In the end, we're hoping the close age will help them relate to each other and be the best of friends (even though I know it's just as likely the exact opposite will happen!!). Our older one is just learning her verbal communication skills, so she's easily frustrated. She requires SO much attention, and gets very aggrevated when she doesn't get it. She's very jealous of the babies things...she's constantly trying to sit in her car sear, swing and bouncy chair. The hardest time is when I'm alone with both, trying to nurse the baby. The two in diapers thing doesn't bother me in the least (well, financially maybe). The older only has about half the diaper changes of the baby, it's really not a big deal. The more your older is able to "help" cate for baby, the better. Olivia is happiest when she's getting diapers and woes for us, and throwing dirty ones away, stuff like that. I agree that there really isn't a perfect gap. I would not personally suggest anything under 22-24 months though from my experience

crushinit

We are going to try for #2 in March so they will be about 3.5 years if it happens right away. I think it's whatever works best for your family.

I would like DD out of diapers before another comes along though.