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lifeluster
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How to handle this....
lifeluster
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I need advise, my DD is a 4th grader and she has a friend with whom she played with last year that is in 5th grade. We know the family pretty well, like get togethers sleep overs and BBQ's their oldest DD babysits for us sometimes. The problem is this little girl is being mean to my daughter in school. Talking about her to other kids and rolling her eyes at her, anything to be outright rude to her. I have told my DD to ask her if there was a problem and the little girl rolls her eyes and walks away. Today in Chorus she refused to stand next to my DD and kept looking at her and laughing. This is starting to bother my DD, she doesn't deal well with ppl not liking her or being outright rude.
Now because we know the family I have sent a Text to the mom to see if there was a problem, the mom said no not that she was aware of. How should I handle this? The mom in me wants to MARCH right up to their house which is like a block from mine and ask the little girl in front of her mom what her issue is. But I don't know if that is the right thing to do....
Any Advise Would Be Welcome!
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Re: How to handle this....
Did the friend's mom ask why you were asking? If so, I would tell her that her daughter has been hurting your dd's feelings. I wouldn't get confrontational, just go in with the attitude that you would like them to work it out if possible. If it can't be worked out or if her behavior persists I would just distance myself from them. Hopefully her mom will be able to talk to her about her behavior but sometimes I think kids get it from their parents unfortunately. (Now if it turns into a bullying situation that's a whole different issue.)
Definitely don't confront the kid. That won't do anyone any good.
I teach 3rd grade too, and agree with the PP that this is very common. At around this age, girls discover the power of social pressure and begin to use it. There's a book, "Queen Bees and Wannabees" that explores this idea. It became (very loosely) the basis for the movie "Mean Girls". It's really worth a read.