Should I be here?

qsuziez

Hello ladies.  I've been here before a long time ago - my DH and I got pregnant with our 1st baby in 2008 and lost him at 20wks.  We had to wait 3 months before even trying again and I got the best support ever from this board.  We succesfully went on to have our son Grayson last year and are TTC again.  I'd love to join this board again but I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable with my DS siggy pic. (I would change it but I post on other boards too).

I am petrified to start this journey again and need the support of ladies who understand the fear and sadness of loss but I don't want to hurt anone either.  Would you feel OK with me joinging this board or should I go to the TTC board?

Thanks for your opinions ladies.

RunSchwartzRun

I am so sorry for you loss.

There are plenty of other women here who already have children (me included) and some choose to have a pic in their siggie.  I can't speak for everyone, but I don't have a problem with it and I hope you stay.  Welcome!

CashewsMommy

There are lots of women who post here with their DC in thier siggys. We like them.

Welcome back! I would appreciate it a lot if you did join us. TTCAL means AL at any time.

erinlovesdavid

I am so sorry for your loss.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I would not mind you posting here at all.  No one who hasn't been where we have can offer the kind of support that we all need during the TTCAL process.

There are lots of other ladies who have their LO's in their siggy, so I don't see why it would be a problem.

Your DS is a-dorable, BTW.

emeraudecephiro

I see no problem with it, it gives me hope I too can have children despite a loss. So it kind of helps to see people's kids I've seen quite a few ladies with their kids in the sigs, it never bothers me one bit. I like to see them!

AmyRM

You're more than welcome here! Your son is adorable. None of us could ever forget our loss, and understand what TTC after is like - no matter how many years pass, or children come along. You should read the pst earlier about kids and loss.

I have a twelve year old daughter.

megstarwsu

I'm sorry for your loss.  I can't speak for everyone, but it doesn't bother me at all!  There are lots of ladies here, me included, who have children.  Like cashew said, it doesn't matter when your loss was, it still happened so you belong here!  Welcome back!

Your DS is super cute!

a&b=him&me

welcome back! The siggie picture doesn't bother me - he is a beautiful baby!

qsuziez

Thanks ladies - that makes me feel so much better.  I'm already scared to be "back in the game" and I knew I could count on positive support from you girls.  I really appreciate it and can't wait to get to know you.  It's crazy how true it is that the loss of a child never fades no matter how many children you may have.

I'm really looking forward to going through this process with you all.  See you in the threads!

qsuziez

Oh and thanks for the compliments on Grayson. He is proof that there is hope after a loss.  I have to remember that through this process.  Thanks again!

Karen1998

I'm sorry for your loss.

Hi and welcome!  It doesn't bother me to see his picture in your siggy, in fact it makes me smile.  He's stinkin' cute!  Plus, it gives me hope.  I hope your TTC journey is short and sweet and has no result other than a sticky baby.

ravenorchid

I am so sorry for your loss. I think your son is adorable and I see no problem with your posting here/ your siggy. I hope you're stay here is short and sweet!

stillbaking

I can't speak for anyone else, but I think of course you should be here. Like a PP said, you are still TTCAL. Welcome.

Your little guy is so adorable. I love that picture.  

tlcW0714

Grayson is adorable!! Welcome to the board!! 

qsuziez

Thanks ladies - I knew I loved this board for a reason.  I'll post my story soon!