FB posting

leslies81

I had to cringe last night when I saw a posting on FB from a girl that I went to HS with.  She is only 4 weeks along and is already posting that the is expecting.

Maybe I am just gun shy, but I didn't even do that the first time around. I also don't think FB is the appropriate outlet to post such news.

What are your thoughts???

ColleenS629

I would never announce on FB before 2nd tri, even before my loss. I know 2nd tri is no guarentee, but it's "safer" I guess.

christyjolee

I personally wouldn't post anything that early.  I'm not even sure I will make a formal announcement if there is a next time.  It was hard enough to un-tell the few friends that knew.  I can't imagine having to un-tell a few hundred people. 

I hope for her sake that everything works out for the best for her.  

kathymarie

I wouldn't dare do that. I was SO sure that a miscarriage wouldn't happen to me...well look what happened. I'm so glad we didn't tell a lot of people. I can't stand talking to the ones that know right now as it is. 

 

leslies81

christyjolee:

  

I hope for her sake that everything works out for the best for her.  

Me too! I will have to say a few prayers for her and her LO.

leslies81

kathymarie:

I wouldn't dare do that. I was SO sure that a miscarriage wouldn't happen to me...well look what happened. I'm so glad we didn't tell a lot of people. I can't stand talking to the ones that know right now as it is. 

 

I was so sure that it wouldn't happen to me either. My Mom never had one, so I assumed that I was safe.

tiffanysbride

I do get that at no point are you safe so if you want to tell people fine, but FB come on! I might be bias, I don't have a FB account and am 28...is that bad?

Personally we told parents at 8 weeks, lost that baby at 9 weeks. Telling them was awful so we waited after that b/c we thought it was safe (no such thing). Next time I think we'll want at least one level II. Non family and friends are just going to have to guess, at no point am I making an official announcement anywhere!

kathymarie

leslies81:

kathymarie:

I wouldn't dare do that. I was SO sure that a miscarriage wouldn't happen to me...well look what happened. I'm so glad we didn't tell a lot of people. I can't stand talking to the ones that know right now as it is. 

 

I was so sure that it wouldn't happen to me either. My Mom never had one, so I assumed that I was safe.

I'm the only one in my family  

krissymac

I had no plans to post the announcement on FB. I watched my SIL do weekly posts as well as several other posts throughout the day about how rough it was for her. Thank goodness she had the baby before I even found out I was pregnant, otherwise I don't think I could have handled it.

lauralizabee

I had a friend take a picture of the BFP on her phone and upload directly to FB 2 minutes after it turned positive! Um, really?! There's no way.

leslies81

krissymac:

I had no plans to post the announcement on FB. I watched my SIL do weekly posts as well as several other posts throughout the day about how rough it was for her. Thank goodness she had the baby before I even found out I was pregnant, otherwise I don't think I could have handled it.

I'm hoping that she will not be obnoxious with her postings, otherwise I may have to inform her that there are people like me that can't handle the daily updates.

LaceFace14

I think with DD I announced to close friends and family right away. Maybe 10 people total. Then once I had an u/s that confirmed heartbeat (at 10 weeks) I told everyone else and posted to FB. This last time I only told close friends and family (again about 10 people) and did not post to FB or tell the masses. I dont see anything wrong with posting on FB under certain circumstances. I have a very small friends list compared to some and only have people on FB that I would want to know. I have a very large extended family that are my family so I want them to know, but not so close that its necessary for me to actually call them or tell IRL.

megstarwsu

I'm also not much for posting it on FB, especially that early.  I didn't with DD or with the last pregnancy.  Personally, I really only use FB to look at other people's pics and stuff, not to announce what's going on in my life.  But to each his own, I guess.

EricaK28

I also never thought a miscarriage would happen to me. I saw a couple people post on facebook then have to announce they lost the baby this was before I was ever pregnant. So I knew from the beggining that I would wait untill atleast the 2nd trimester if I tell at all with the next pregnancy.

I hope your freind does not have any problems.

butterfly843

I didn't post on fb until 2nd tri, then had to post we lost them. Even months later I had people asking how I was feeling who never saw the post about the loss so I had to explain all over again. Next time I'm not posting till I have baby pics.

Laurakat81

I don't find FB appropriate at all but that being said we made an announcement letting everyone know we'd lost our second baby simply b/c I didn't want to repeat it over and over (of course this was after telling those closest to us). So for many FB friends it was the first time they'd heard we were even pregnant.

 But I've found that after my first loss I really had more of an urge to tell people early on. We told family and closest friends at only 3w3d and asked for prayers and support. We told everyone else at 6w4d after seeing a healthy heartbeat.  It really turned out to be a great thing when we lost her b/c people were praying for us so much that they felt some of our heartache and we had a lot of support, still do. I think i'll do the same thing this time around too.

Chargerchick17

I also posted on Facebook that I was pregnant because I couldn't hold in the excitement after waiting 6 long years.  It was so hard to untell on FB when I had a mc 2 weeks later.  The only good part is that so many people reached out to confort me.  Several friends also opened up and told me they too had mc'd. 

 

Next time around... I am announcing with babyshower invites