How long did it take for you to conceive and other questions...

feistyred23

I know that this is personal, but I'm just wondering how long it took for you to conceive your little ones. Did you do anything extra to help the process along(example:eating pineapple core, pre-seed lubricant)? If it took you awhile, how did you deal with it to make it not the entire focus of your life? I'm not too worried at the moment since I just started charting, but seriously the month drags on when you are thinking about trying to have a baby. Any words of advice for an impatient wannabe mommy?

dbertagni

It took 9 months with #1 and I have been of BCP since December with no luck for #2. I did try Pre-Seed but I didn't like it. I charted, tempted, used my CBEFM and that was about it. It was my major obsession and focal point, and yes, every month I would drive myself nuts with fake pregnancy symptoms (I am still doing this now). It is really hard not to think about it!  Once you do get pregnant your every thought and obsession will be about hoping the baby is OK, and once you have the baby every focus and thought will be about the baby, so might as well get used to it now

raceyrae

dbertagni:

Once you get pregnant your every thought and obsession will be about hoping the baby is OK, and once you have the baby every focus and thought will be about the baby, so might as well get used to it now

 So true!

DD#1 - 5 mo., with charting starting at month 4 and using CBEFM month 5

DD#2 - 1 mo., no other techniques but sex   Was very surprised I got pg that quickly.  Thought I'd need the CBEFM again.

Before getting pg with DD#1, it was very stressful.  I constantly was overanalyzing everything within the 2 week window.  I think both DH and I were getting frustrated and end up feeling like we were only having sex to get pg because it got so stressful.  I can only imagine how I would have been if it had taken even longer. 

Good luck!   

veronicacorningstone

Three years.     And the only reason we're pregnant now is because of IVF.   Mine is probably not the response you're looking for, because TTGP really did become the focus of our lives for so long, which in turn put a lot of stress on our relationship.  We really had to take a step back and make a concerted effort to focus on "us" again instead of focusing 24/7 on trying to start a family.   Going through that rough spot made us realize we had to do something, or we were going to ruin the family we already had.  Me and him.

 It can be long, it can take time and it can frustrate you, but try not to let it overwhelm you and stress you guys out.  If you want to do what you can, use the PreSeed while charting.  You can also use the CBEFM.  (Heh.  I'll sell you mine for $50!)  Those are things you can do to give you the optimal chance, to make sure you and your DH are having sex right around ovulation. 

Again though, don't stress if it doesn't happen right away.  Not be beat a dead horse, but it does take some people 6 months to a year to conceive.  Obviously, seek help if it's been more than a year.  (I can't remember, but aren't you around my age?   33ish?  I know once you reach 35, they tell you to see an RE if it's been 6 months with no luck.)  I'm not saying you'll have any of these problems at all, but it's always good to have this info in the back of your mind.  Hopefully you'll be posting your bfp soon!

Again, don't let TTC to be the focus of your relationship, although it's easier said than done. 

feistyred23

Thanks ladies. By the way, what is CBEFM? Is this a fertility monitor?

 

feistyred23

Veronica- Just found out what it was. I might take you up on your purchase if nothing happens by next month!

ECUGirl2004

We got pregnant the first month with DS.  We're on our 9th cycle of trying for #2 now.

I saw an RE a few months ago due to spotting issues and she gave me progesterone and told me to try a few more cycles.  When/if we reach 12 cycles of trying, I'll be making an RE appointment to find out what's going on.  She really wasn't concerned yet, which is kind of nice, even though I find the spotting to be pretty upsetting each month.

For me, charting and using OPKs is sufficient.  I don't feel like I need a CBEFM, because I know when I'm about to O.  If your cycles are really inconsistent or you have problems with charting, a CBEFM might be worth a shot.

GL!

 

nark

We got pregnant a lot faster then we expected (first month off BCP). Our method: Lots of sex (like every other day).

nark

We got pregnant a lot faster then we expected (first month off BCP). Our method: Lots of sex (like every other day).

GL!

uncjules

We took 4 months. I used pre-seed but I think what helped me was pomegranate juice. That helps with implantation, which was a big deal for me since I had an 8-9 day luteal phase and spotting as early as 6 DPO. The first month I used pom juice, I got pregnant!

MrsHughesNC

We were very lucky and I conceived Holly the first month we didn't use birth control (I'd gone off BCP's in January, then used condoms for 2 months, conceived Holly in March). I had read TCOYF, and had started "sort of" charting to see if I could understand my cycles, but I really didn't want to get too into that unless we didn't conceive after a few months. I really wanted to be laid back about it and just try to let "nature take it's course" at first, and luckily for us, it happened that way.

I know I will definitely have to be a lot more deliberate about it next time. Frankly, we just don't have nearly as much sex. Plus, I know that just because it happened quickly last time, doesn't mean it will again. I know it will stress me out. It's a big part of the reason I'm just not ready to start trying, and don't think I will be anytime soon.  :-(

BackthePack

With J, it took 7 months after I stopped taking my BCP. 

With #2, it took about 6 weeks after I got my IUD out (I was shocked!). Unfortunately, I miscarried last month, so it will be a while before we try again.

ETA: I never charted, used OPKs, or anything else. Just good old fashioned sex. We decided we'd wait a year before starting to use anything extra to help in the process.  Not everyone agrees with me, but my advice is always just to relax & have fun for a while (at least 6 months). If there's still no baby on the way, then look for some help.

AnneNC

I've gotten pregnant twice, and it took 2 cycles each time.  I had a miscarriage the first time @ 9 weeks, and then we didn't try again for about 5 months.  I went through a hard time emotionally after the m/c.   

When we first started trying, we truly did have fun with it and I didn't stress at all !!  It was fun & exciting, and I think its great to experience that feeling without getting stressed in the beginning. 

TTC (with DD) I did feel a little more anxious/impatient, and on my 2nd cycle I used OPKs. 

My advice would be just HAVE FUN right now and enjoy being newlyweds!!! 

 

MrsSavannah

1 month for DD #1 even though DH and I were living in different states.    I was charting and booked the closing of our home for when I thought I would O.  It worked out.

6 cycles (actually more than 6 months though - like 7 or 8) for DD #2.  I knew something was off before we even started trying though.  I was charting and things just weren't normal.  I tried telling my OB but she kept wanting to wait and see.  I was about to turn 35 and didn't want to just wait.  So I found a new OB, he did some testing, put me on meds and 3 months later I was pregnant.

ETA:  The only thing I used the first time was charting (charted to avoid for 5 months before TTC).  The second time I charted and used OPKs from the beginning, but after about 2 months of my cycles being a mess (actually they became a mess several months before we started trying) I just quit charting.  I knew I wasn't ovulating. 

VivianLee

It took 4 months of good ole fashioned sex to get pregnant with Connor.  I was very naive and new nothing really about ovulation and timing sex, etc.  I guess we just got lucky.

When we started trying again (much more knowledgable as well) I got pg on my 5th cycle.  Unfortunately I m/c'd that baby.  I got pregnant again 2 months later and m/c'd that baby also.  2 months after that I got pregnant with this baby.  So, 11 months all together.  The only thing I did differently with this pregnancy was pom juice.  Had I hit the year mark I would have saw my dr and probably started charting.

I really hope things are successful for you soon!!

MrsMcJamie

It took us 5 months & was fun but also very frustrating. I tried SO HARD not to be obsessive during the 2WW, but I totally was some months. How obnoxious is it that AF symptoms & early preg symptoms are so similar?

But anyway, I tried to keep a well rounded approach by, during the 2ww, writing a little list of things that would be better not to be preg for (ie - a wedding the next month I'd want to drink at or a beach trip that summer it'd be better not to be x months pregnant for, etc.) Obviously, we were trying so I WANTED to be pregnant.  But thinking about some things that might be a bright side to a BFN... weirdly it kind of worked in keeping my perspective.

I liked charting, but make sure you do something to keep it fun for you & your DH.  And DON'T worry if it doesn't happen magically on the first try... I kept repeating to myself that even healthy couples only have a 25% chance of conceiving any given month.

Bensbride2006

Before my m/c we were not TTC, but obviously we were not avoiding.  Since I got pregnant pretty easily I thought it would be immediate after my D&C.  It still took us 6 months.  I had already read TCOYF and was charting.  Additionally I used Pre-seed and OPKs.  Honestly, I drove myself and DH crazy with everything and timing sex.

The month we got pg, we stopped obsessing and went to Seattle on vacation.  I'm convinced it happened because we were not stressed and relaxed on vacation.  

But, then like the PP said: the worrying continued once we were pregnant...and it doesn't stop!  

rashidaranae@yahoo.com

we were lucky...it happened right away w/the LO on the way now. we had no idea we thought it would take longer. 

 After being intimate I did put the pillow up under my hips to help the semen along LOL

I am not sure how long it took with my now 15yr old daughter since  it was almost 16yrs ago LOL

jenwill

MrsLee04:

BackthePack:

 

Not everyone agrees with me, but my advice is always just to relax & have fun for a while (at least 6 months). If there's still no baby on the way, then look for some help.

I agree with this.  Having been through IF, I can tell you from experience getting into all that stuff really takes the fun out of it. 

Ditto this!!  Took us 22 mos to get pregnant with DD (on IUI #2 and Clomid). Try to enjoy this time and not stress....

Ldybugsuzi

Thanks for making the post fiesty! I was very interested to read yalls' responses too.  I actually bought POM juice at Costco today so maybe that's the trick I was missing out on!  Feisty, we'll have to meet for break one day soon & discuss!

moobug

I know that this is personal, but I'm just wondering how long it took for you to conceive your little ones.1 year

Did you do anything extra to help the process along(example:eating pineapple core, pre-seed lubricant)? Not really. We did try to time it based on my charting, in increase frequency to an abnormal amount - that's about it.

If it took you awhile, how did you deal with it to make it not the entire focus of your life? Don't over research - yet. Charting is great, but not if it takes over your life and stresses you out. I stopped charting 2 months before we conceived and it greatly reduced my stress level. However after 10 months of charting, I really knew my cycle.

Erin212

2 cycles. But the first one I literally never saw mucus and was worried that was going to keep happening, so I took Mucinex for a couple of days around maybe cycle days 11-14. I had tons, so I'm sure it made a difference.