controlling dh

Sucifer

DD is 3 weeks old and I am a prime candidate for ppd. DH doesn't want me going anywhere with dd,not even a friend's house, He doesn't want me driving and thinks it is unnecessary for me to go anywhere, people can come to me.  I feel trapped and resent him, He argues I am wasting gas and putting miles on our leased car.  He doesn't get home until 7 or 8 in the evening and I am alone all day. What do I say to make him understand?

j9lovey

Explain to him that being with a 3 week old is boring and tiresome...that you need some sort of outlet.  Let him know that putting a few miles on the car will not kill the lease.  Take turns with your friends...one week you go to their house the next to yours.  If that doesn't work...make plans with friends on the weekend and have him watch the baby to see what you go through! 

skiwic8

How can he control you?  If you want to go out why are you letting him stop you?  Is he concerned about the baby....plenty of people take their babies out in public.  Maybe you could all go someplace together this weekend to help him be more comfortable.  It is super important you get out of the house.  Like pp said get together with friends.  Or find a local moms group in your community.  My friend that also has a newborn and my moms group have been my saviors!

claire1983

Oh wow, that is no good. I would go crazy if I didn't get out to visit or go for a good walk with a friend at least every other day. Men don't seem to understand that life at home with a baby is not a relaxing holiday. It is a ton of work and lonely as well at times.