Boy names for girls

alohamora

Article on You Can't Call It "It" from a girl named Tyson....

Just some food for thought, since I know this is an issue that comes up so often on this board.

fineskyline

I like a lot of masculine or surname-y names on girls, but even I have to be horrified at a girl named Tyson, eeek.

laurenbrooke_09

That makes me think twice about a couple of the boy-ish names I like, although I was going to pair them with a super girly mn. That poor girl!

EXL311

I really don't understand why parents do this to their daughters.  It's awful imo.

Allie30

Honestly, I don't ENTIRELY believe her post. The stuff that happened when she was a kid? Absolutely! But not all the legal drama!  I went to school with a girl named Davis and no one ever "corrected" her paperwork to say she was a boy -- and to issue a warrant for her arrest? Um, did they not double check her social security record that says she's a girl, regardless of what her college incorrectly listed? It's news to me that they even send out selective service forms based on college admission records -- since the majority of 18 year old men in this country DON'T go to college (only a third of Americans do.) How did her reverend think they would have "legal" issues getting married? He'd met the couple in question and you have to show up in person at the courthouse to get your license. Additionally, I've NEVER had a membership card that listed me as "Mrs." anything -- just my name. And who just "cancels" Rx orders from doctor's offices? Don't they call back to check?

If this were posted here I'd call MUD. 

A lot of these problems are the same problems people SWORE to me I'd have because I kept my maiden name after marriage -- people won't beleive i"m married, servicemen will think they've come to the wrong house, you'll have problems seeing your husband if he's sent to the hospital, the IRS won't let you file as a married couple, the bank won't accept your checks, they won't believe your dog/child/etc. is yours.... the list went on and on. We haven't had a single problem, and my friends who have children whose names are different than theirs haven't had any problems either. Is it because we live in a metropolitan area? Maybe. But when a service guy comes to my house, I go, "great, the clogged toilet is this way" -- he doesn't ask for ID or proof of my marriage license! Could be anyone that answers the door -- the point is to get the toilet fixed/deck refinished/wiring repaired/cable turned on.

That being said, I hate giving girls boys names. It's not worth the personal pain, and the teasing.

starlight8323

Allie30:

  It's news to me that they even send out selective service forms based on college admission records

Just because it's news to you doesn't mean it's untrue.

And how do you know that the reverend had already met the couple in question?

And just because you haven't had a membership filled out with "Mrs.", doesn't mean that she hasn't.

It is always possible that people are lying, but I don't have any reason not to believe what she's saying.

 

I really enjoyed this article, and while I think it will be useful for parents to make an informed decision on using boys names for girls, I think it could help others as well.

One of the things that stood out to me in this article was when her professors started calling attention to her, by asking for identification in front of huge lecture halls full of people.

"I?m not a center of attention, look-at-me type person? that?s when I first started really cursing my name," she says.

I don't like unisex names or boys names for girls or vice versa, but that quote made me think about some names that I've considered.

I don't know if I want to choose a name that will precede my child when (s)he walks into a room. I tend to think about my children as being outgoing and friendly, but what if she is shy like this author? Or what if he keeps to himself and mostly just reads? A name like Cornelius or Magnolia could be despised by a child who just wants to fit in.

Maybe I should consider names that more children around them will have, like Brayden and Nevaeh!

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Nah

 

hutch0830

Allie30:

 It's news to me that they even send out selective service forms based on college admission records -- since the majority of 18 year old men in this country DON'T go to college (only a third of Americans do.) 

 

Actually, it's quite possible that the financial aid department updated her FAFSA to male. The selective service cross checks with the FAFSA, so if a "male" is being reported as not having registered, they will be flagged. I work in higher ed administration. 

jez_girl

The mention of the draft in the linked article made me confused, so I looked up 'selective service system'... Wow. Just wow. I had no idea this was still going on.

*hums 'O Canada' slightly off-tune*