Would ya beleive...

RJMbim

DD's BM is pregnant again She's not even 22 yet and this will be baby #5 & again from another father.

Baby 1- had at 13- man #1
Baby 2- had at 16- man #2
Baby 3- had at 18- same as baby 2
Baby 4 (DD)- had at 20- man #3
Baby 5 (pregnant now)- 21- man #4

I asked her what she was going to do and her reply was that it's too far along to terminate but that she doesn't like the father...yeah she really did say that, people just have sex with people they don't "like".

She called because she wants me to pass on DD's outgrown baby things...I told her I'd get back to her and hung up- I know I don't have a "right" to be pissed but I am just soooo *not even sure what this emotion is* right now.

lrrb

I know that feeling and its not for the mother its for the unborn baby thats your sweet little girls sibling and your heart is hurting for that child.  At least thats how I would feel....

I hope whatever she decides to do is the right decision for the BABY and that you feel a peace about it all.  Hang in there...hugs... 

amberfernandez

Wow, I don't know what to say except *hugs*.  This is my biggest fear also.  I really hope that whatever happens, it's in the best interest of the baby.  Hang in there.

Our DD's BM is considerably older than yours, she's 38, but DD was #6 for her and #10 for BF who is 40.

Smiley_grl52

Well what I felt when I read this was that, how can some one have so many babies and not want them?  When girls like that have baby after baby and don't care.... it's very sad. It's not fair to the baby. I just hope she can find a good home for the child.

jehnm

That would be so hard!  This is one of those things I just don't understand!  I'm sorry you have to deal with it!

c1311

Wow, I'm not sure what to say either.  It must be difficult for you.  I can't even imagine having sex at 13, let alone a baby.  Hopefully she makes the best choice for her baby.

mcmann05

I honestly have to say this leaves me speechless! I can't imagine how you feel....I think my mouth honestly fell open to think of having #5 at age 21! I agree with a pp, I can't imagine even having sex at 13, let alone having a baby! WOW!

I told DH about this and he wondered if she's parenting any of them?? You don't have to share if you don't wan to but now I'm curious too.

I really hope you can find the strength to get through this, especially since this is a blood relative to your DD.

I'm actually a little perturbed and believe (no flames please) that after having so many children and not being able to take care of them then maybe someone should say something like "time to tie your tubes!!"

mrsdrkwaver

Our birthmother is 23 and has 7 pregnancies. she had 1 abortion and 1 preemature birth that resulted in the baby dieing. She has  kids living with eithor family or dcf all have different fathers and now she is married and planning on having kids with him. uuggh i could not believe she was tlaking about gettign pg before x mas. its soooo sad i feel for the kids. Oh and they all have different dads. its a life i do not understand and probably never will

hway24

My first thought was that's so unfair! She gets 5, and isn't prepared to care for 1, and we're totally prepared and can't even get 1. Yeah, I'm jealous!!

 I don't think I'd be able to give her your DD's baby things.

Just curious, is she parenting the other children?

RJMbim

mcmann05:

I told DH about this and he wondered if she's parenting any of them?? You don't have to share if you don't wan to but now I'm curious too.
Her mother (a former prostitute) has the oldest child with her & the middle kids stay between her (in a 1 bedroom) and the father (he's actually a hard working mature young dad).

I'm actually a little perturbed and believe (no flames please) that after having so many children and not being able to take care of them then maybe someone should say something like "time to tie your tubes!!"
This was my suggestion after DD was born but they won't do it because she's too young; even though getting pregnant is now a health risk to her and the child.

mcmann05

RJMbim:

mcmann05:

I told DH about this and he wondered if she's parenting any of them?? You don't have to share if you don't wan to but now I'm curious too.
Her mother (a former prostitute) has the oldest child with her & the middle kids stay between her (in a 1 bedroom) and the father (he's actually a hard working mature young dad).

I'm actually a little perturbed and believe (no flames please) that after having so many children and not being able to take care of them then maybe someone should say something like "time to tie your tubes!!"
This was my suggestion after DD was born but they won't do it because she's too young; even though getting pregnant is now a health risk to her and the child.

That's great about the dad being able to take care of her other siblings. And, at least mom is able to somewhat parent.

Wow to the latter. I think no matter the age if you've had 5 pregnancies then maybe the doctors would think "ok, that's enough".

RJMbim

mcmann05:

RJMbim:

mcmann05:

I told DH about this and he wondered if she's parenting any of them?? You don't have to share if you don't wan to but now I'm curious too.
Her mother (a former prostitute) has the oldest child with her & the middle kids stay between her (in a 1 bedroom) and the father (he's actually a hard working mature young dad).

I'm actually a little perturbed and believe (no flames please) that after having so many children and not being able to take care of them then maybe someone should say something like "time to tie your tubes!!"
This was my suggestion after DD was born but they won't do it because she's too young; even though getting pregnant is now a health risk to her and the child.

That's great about the dad being able to take care of her other siblings. And, at least mom is able to somewhat parent.

Wow to the latter. I think no matter the age if you've had 5 pregnancies then maybe the doctors would think "ok, that's enough".

I say "former" but I'm not even sure; she claims that she's done with that life but everytime I pass by (I occasionally stop by to take stuff for the kids) there is a different man. This whole situation is a mess!
BM lives with her mother now (as of today) she lost her former housing because of a boyfriend so now she and the 2 children are in a bedroom sharing a bed.
I am just so....

smith486

Seriously. How do you end up with 5 accidental pregnancies by the age of 21? Does she not understand what causes pregnancy? Birth control is a lot cheaper than a child.

I also am jealous of her baby-making abilities, and I am really struggling with this this year. In my kindergarten class several parents are younger than me (I am only 26) and most are on free/reduced lunch. The kids don't know their alphabet or how to write their name. One little girl doesn't even know the ABC song. How can you not know the ABC song? I am rambling...