Anyone else feel this way?

lindsay.lou

I think that because ttc has been such a challenge for us, when I do finally have a baby....I'm sparing no expense.

I don't want hand me downs. I want to pick everything out. And I want the best of everything. 

I think if I had gotten KU right away, I'd be more reasonable and frugal about the whole thing. But I think after almost 2 years and the loss, I deserve to go bananas  with baby purchases.

ColindaP

Ha. I'm the opposite. By the time we get done paying the RE bajillions of dollars, everything is going to have to be secondhand!!!

Ok, ok, and Colinda the Crunchy has a thing for secondhand stuff. 

jen629

I think this is How DH will be but I would take second hand stuff  but I have a frugal side to me..lol..

lindsay.lou

My DH is suuuuuper frugal (ok, he's cheap). He's going to have a HUGE problem with me turning down hand-me-downs. That may be a problems.

jen629

lindsay.lou:

My DH is suuuuuper frugal (ok, he's cheap). He's going to have a HUGE problem with me turning down hand-me-downs. That may be a problems.

You just don't tell him silly Take them and then hand them on if you really don't need or want them

rjl07

One of my friends insisted I take her old crib a year ago...I guess I jinxed myself by accepting it.  I refused to bring it into my home though so it's in my SIL's basement.  I actually don't even want to use it, but I felt bad turning it down.  Another friend wants to give me a furniture set too, but I have a feeling I'm going to want everything new too. 

lindsay.lou

jen629:

lindsay.lou:

My DH is suuuuuper frugal (ok, he's cheap). He's going to have a HUGE problem with me turning down hand-me-downs. That may be a problems.

You just don't tell him silly Take them and then hand them on if you really don't need or want them

That's my plan for things that come from my side. 

But his sister just had #2 (she's 6 months old now) and they're definitely all done having kids (per doctor's orders). So, by the time we pop one out she'll have TONS of stuff to give us. Don't know what I'm gonna do about that.

schen0510

I am right there with ya.  This can really only happen because of my inheritance from my father...and my MIL is made of money...but I just feel like I may only be able to do this once...not sure if we will go back for another IVF if this one is a complete success...so I want to enjoy every moment and every thing...including the shopping!

jennsadye1979

Sadly, my eventual take home baby has a growing pile of unused hand-me-downs...

But I agree, any kid o'mine, will be beyond spoiled for nice crap! 

maceymay1816

ColindaP:

Ha. I'm the opposite. By the time we get done paying the RE bajillions of dollars, everything is going to have to be secondhand!!!

Ok, ok, and Colinda the Crunchy has a thing for secondhand stuff. 

I second you on that.  I'm a bit frugal and a secret yard sale junkie, so secondhand stuff is great for me.  Plus after all the RE bills there won't be a whole lot left over for sure.

Although there will probably be a few things I have to splurge on.

bbhalphen

Lindsay, I feel the same way!  I don't go to BRU anymore because it makes me sad.  The little boutiques I get baby gifts at are much pricier, but super cute things and there aren't as many FHs.  I have picked out SO many things for the nursery and their outfits!  My DH is also frugal, but he spoils the dogs rotten, so I'm hoping he'll let me buy what I want for our kid.  Now, my mom sews and smocks really well, so I'm going to be all up in that.  I would like to learn how to smock and do pillowcase dresses before I have babies.

Plus I know my parents and sister will be buying things all the time, we have no babies in our family on my side right now.

dondraandluis

Yes, I def feel like I deserve it. I will accept clothes and stuff but the crib and all the big stuff is going to be new.

BeachCole

I feel like that too. Now, I'll glad take nice clothing hand me downs from the few close friends I have with babies, because we are living on one income. But the big stuff will all be new. MIL wants to give us all DH's nursery furniture. No thanks. And if we end up with a girl, she'll be spoiled with all new stuff by our families. It is nothing but boys on both sides. 

sunshinenva

Good for you! 

While I did not change my idea of spending of the baby I have made other descisions.

 When I was pg I was determined to stay "full duty" as long as possible and "pull my weight" at work, but now I saw Fvck that Sh!t I can't wait to be pg and kick my heels up!

butterfly843

I'm with you, dh wanted to take a few things from our friends when we were pg with the twins. But I think after everything that happened it will be much easier to have him agree to buy everything new. I have bought so many nice baby things for our friends and family I want to do the same for our baby.

triple_sevens

I've had the complete opposite reaction. I'm not thrifty or frugal at all, and for years I had fun looking at expensive baby furniture and items and designer strollers and diaper bags online and planning all the great things I would buy for my kid.

And now I just don't give a crap about any of that any more. I hate thinking about it, because it reminds me of my naive optimism, and I wonder if I'll retain this aversion to babystores even after getting pregnant. We'll see.