anyone else not having a babyshower?

aoife o

and if not what are you doing instead? if anything?

trinadesrosiers

Not sure, I was supposed to but my friend who was going to throw it isn't living nearby anymore and I had told people she was going to do it ( my family all lives far away and scattered)  but I am thinking once the baby comes we will have a meet the baby pot luck or something sometime around new years, so we still get a little celebration.

aoife o

oh thank you, something the same happend to me and my family and his family all live 5hours flights away. so thats why im not having one. did you do a registery? i started one and then when my friend let me down, i haven't looked at it since, so i'm thinking if people ask me would i like anything i could just tell them thats the wish list. does that seem ok?

trinadesrosiers

Ya, same hear, started a registry a while back.  I think that sounds fine to me, but I am no expert on the ettiquite of these things   But a wish list seems appropriate, you never know when something might happen short notice either. 

aoife o

true, but i was so upset about what my friend did, that i told my husband i don't want one cos idon't want to be let down again. he felt bad too. its become a touchy subject now, its not gona happen. he tried to talk bout it the other day and i told him i had already said i don't want one. so i know its not going to happen, but im ok with that. but it does make you worry alil if we will be able to afford all the things a baby needs. so we decided we are just going to get the stroller and carseat and the bassinette to start with and go from there. i hope you get something. its not easy doing it on your own. times like this it would be nice to have somekind of family or friends around.

AshleyDoll

It's our third baby and I really don't want to but DH and my mom and everyone else insist I have one, so do I really have a choice? We got rid of everything after our last baby so we have absolutely nothing and DH thinks that a baby shower is something I need.

BellaCapulet

As I am kind of a private person and not really *that* close to very many female relatives (and only have a small inner circle of girlfriends), I decided not to have a baby shower (mom and sister left it up to me if I wanted one).  My mom, sister, and I decided to do a girls day of shopping, lunch, and bonding dedicated to baby stuff instead. 

In all honesty, we have not had a baby in the immediate family for almost 8 years, my family has gone a little crazy with the shopping already.  By the time our shopping day comes up I will need very little for LO, but it will be nice to spend the time with my mom and sis.

pawcall

No one offered me one, so I'm not going to be having one.  We'll buy him the things he needs and anyone who wanted to give a gift will do so with or without a shower.  It's a little sad to think that no one wants to celebrate our first child this way, but realistically, no one's ever going to be as excited as we are.  Most of my friends are young and fairly self-centered.  My family lives 1500 miles away.  My husband's family is not the "giving" type.  So there you have it. 

What will we do instead?  Nothing.  A "meet the baby" party sounds fun in theory but I don't see the details working too well in the dead of winter.  At that point I'm sure I'll have my hands full enough without planning a party.

cougarlicious

I'm not, nor do I want one.  Not good at being the center of attention, and we can afford all of our own stuff.  We never had a wedding shower either (although luckily for us it meant almost everyone gave us cash instead!).

meltoine

I'm really trying to avoid having one. My sister has offered to throw one, but here is my dilemma:

I live in Egypt. I am delivering in New York. My sister wants to throw the shower in New York when I arrive back there in January. How am I supposed to get all the stuff back here? Everyone keeps saying that we can just ask people to ship things here, but I know that most people will still bring something with them to the shower. I have no clue how I will manage an extra suitcase or two full of stuff, plus the baby on a 12 hour flight by myself to get back here.

We're having the baby baptized pretty fast because my husband will only be in New York for max 2 weeks after the birth, so we will just host a luncheon after the baptism so everyone can meet the baby. 

greenclown

I'm not. If someone wants to do something after the baby is born, but I can't accept anything before the baby is born because of my history.

JayKay2387

Since this is #2, I wasn't planning on having one. I have a few friends who all had girls, so I gave away almost everything we did have. My best friend insists on throwing a party, but I told her I'd like it to be very small. SO and I did plan on just having a meet the baby party once he/she is born.

MariDave01

My mother stated that she will throw us one and we were going to do it in late Oct. to avoid the holiday burden. However there are reservations after a scare and Im not sure if I want one too soon, leaving it to ealry decemer at 25 wks or have a baby welcome / meet. He wants one early but Im nervous. If and when we do have one it will be low budget as I have been placed on bed rest and rather the money go to baby gear than a shower.

staycee

I didn't.  (moved away from my hometown and all my close friends when I married DH)

toward the end of my last pregnancy, my mom felt a little bad that no one was doing anything and she said she'd throw one.    I told her that honestly, all I really wanted was a nice Lunch out (we went to Olive Garden) with my 6 closest girlfriends from back home and no one else.    I wanted the chance to chat, and laugh, and catch up without having to sensor anything because of nosey MIL or aunts hanging around.

so we had the lunch, my friends of course brought gifts for the baby.   So it was sort of a very mini-shower.

pawcall

staycee - your daughter is fabulously adorable.

princesscm99

I'm not having one, and don't want one.

I'm not close with very many women (DH is in the military and we move a lot), and to be completely honest - I know this makes me sound like a snobby shrew BTW - we're really picky with things and I don't want to deal with returning a bunch of stuff we don't want/need.

We'll be sending out announcements, and that's about it. 

knvalen

Im not sure If I will have one, all of our family is scattered all over the place. They usually just send a card. At least that's what they did at our wedding.

nital

i'm not.  i don't like the attention, and as i get rounder, i'm sure i'll like it even less.

Bluescarf

I'm not planning on having one. I live states away from my very close friends (hubby in the Air Force), and his parents live states away also. I have no family at all so...no shower for me.