Pleas help - Need Advice w/ my 3.5 year old...Fairly long

Victorsgal

So I posted a couple of months ago about my 3 year old then, starting to wet the bed overnight again.  I was advised to put her in pull ups overnight.  I didn't feel that was the right thing to do since she stopped wearing pull ups since she was 2.5 years old. 

So, the backstory is my 3.5 year old has been at home since she was born and just started preschool last week.  While she was home she was able to eat dinner at around 6-7pm and go to bed between 9-10pm.  Now that she is in school, she eats dinner at 6pm and goes to bed at 7:30pm.  I wonder if the time difference has something to do with her wetting again.  Maybe by the time her food and drinks have reached her bladder; she is in a deep sleep.  And, my girl loves her sleep.  What I don't understand is that dd goes over my moms house every weekend and doesn't wet her bed.  She has been going for a year and has never had an accident.  Now, there really isn't a set routine there - they eat and sleep whenever and my mom says she often forgets to wake dd up in the middle of night, but yet she doesn't wet.

We've also noticed that when dd sleeps in her own bed is when she wets herself, if she sleeps with us or with my mom she won't have an accident.  Most of the time she will hold it until morning or wake up in the middle of night to go.  So what do we do, besides putting her back into pullups?  I feel like there is something that is causing this and I want to try to get to the bottom of it before I dismiss it as "she is still too young" to be sleeping overnight w/o pullups. 

Right now, she eats dinner at 6 and falls asleep at about 7:30.  I was thinking to maybe moving dinner up to 5 so she has some time to expel the liquid out of her system before she sleeps.  What do you all think?  Also in school yesterday, her teacher said she sat in her chair and just wet herself.  She didn't ask to use the bathroom like she usually does.  Sorry if this post is all over the place, I am just not at ease with this whole thing and just really want to get the bottom of it.  TIA for any suggestions/ideas you may have.

 

 

canhardlywait1

I would try getting her up to use the potty right before you go to bed at night, 10-11ish?  Sort of like dream feeding, dream potty her!

dawnc78

canhardlywait1:

I would try getting her up to use the potty right before you go to bed at night, 10-11ish?  Sort of like dream feeding, dream potty her!

We did this with DD for a while too...it worked really well and she barely woke to pee so she never even remembered it!

 

Victorsgal

Yeah, we do.  But most times she has already wet herself - it gets so frustrating at times.  2 nights ago, I woke up 3 times to put her on the toilet and she had already wet herself each time.

DandelionMom

She probably only wets her own bed because she's most comfortable there and gets a better sleep.  That's not a bad thing. 

I have no advice because I went the nighttime pull up routine until they didn't wet the bed anymore for all 3 of my girls. 

Victorsgal

DandelionMom:

She probably only wets her own bed because she's most comfortable there and gets a better sleep.  That's not a bad thing. 

I have no advice because I went the nighttime pull up routine until they didn't wet the bed anymore for all 3 of my girls. 

At what age did that end for your girls?

DandelionMom

Oldest was 2.5, middle and youngest were nearly 4. 

Victorsgal

DandelionMom:

Oldest was 2.5, middle and youngest were nearly 4. 

Thanks.

Jaylea

It may just be that she needs more time to outgrow this. And, as Dandelion said - she likely is in a deep sleep and is not waking.

Why are you so averse to pull-ups? In my mind it makes more sense to have her dry, comfortable, and getting quality sleep than waking her three times per night, when she's wet at every waking.

That said, my 3.5 year old is still in pullups at night b/c she sleeps deeply and would otherwise have nightly accidents. I'm just not worried about it. It's a physical maturity issue, and one she'll outgrow.

Victorsgal

Jaylea:

It may just be that she needs more time to outgrow this. And, as Dandelion said - she likely is in a deep sleep and is not waking.

Why are you so averse to pull-ups? In my mind it makes more sense to have her dry, comfortable, and getting quality sleep than waking her three times per night, when she's wet at every waking.

That said, my 3.5 year old is still in pullups at night b/c she sleeps deeply and would otherwise have nightly accidents. I'm just not worried about it. It's a physical maturity issue, and one she'll outgrow.

Yeah, I am not opposed to them - I just want to make sure there's nothing serious to worry about.  Her pediatrician wants to see her tomorrow and when all the tests come back normal, we will take the pull up route if need be.   Thanks.

littlemermaid

Is the path to the bathroom well-lit?  Could she be scared to get out of bed and walk to the bathroom because it's "dark."