What should I do? ( sry kind of long)

stutz29

So  I am getting  married Sept 24th!  The four girls in my wedding really want me to go out this Sat for a couple of hrs to get a mani and a pedi and have lunch and maybe do a little shopping since I am not doing a Bachlorette party.  I have never left DS for more than 2 hrs.  SO is willing too watch him but I am so worried because sometimes when DS cries SO still gets flustered and is not sure what to do even though I show him all the time. I am worried he would just end up putting LO in his crib and letting him cry it out.  One of the girls in my wedding, her mom has also offered to watch him for me.  she is very nice and I know her pretty well.  But she will  be a stranger to DS and im nervous about leaving him.  I also EBF and only give a bottle to DS once in a great while so I am a little worried he may not take a bottle that day if I leave him..   Im just not sure what to do.  I don't know who to leave him with if I do end up going.  Im very nervous about leaving him.  Any suggestions??  TIA!!

yankeebaby2

I mean this in the nicest way possible but if you don't trust your SO to take care of LO then you should not marry him. 

eajanvrin

My DH used to get very frustrated when he couldn't figure out what was wrong with LO or soothe her.  It took me a day to leave her home with him when I had to go to work for him to begin to feel comfortable.  I think that SO will also feel like you don't trust him if you don't leave your DS with him.  If you are nervous about the bottle thing...at work we offer that parents sleep with a shirt or blanket or something for a few days then bring it in for us to put close to the baby so that they have mom's scent but are taking a bottle from us. 

JulesDiane

SO needs to learn how to take care of your LO. 

weheartsofie

SO needs to be able to be alone with your LO, imo.  

BFab11

How far away will you go?  If there's a serious issue or SO is having a problem, go home.  You can try, SO will probably surprise you with how well he copes.  Go have fun!

Starfish113

DH wasn't good at soothing LO either. I left her with him one day for about 5 hours and it was fine. He figured out how to soothe her because he had no other choice! Now i don't have to worry at all! I'm sure it will be fine

ASmallWonder

JulesDiane:

SO needs to learn how to take care of your LO. 

This exactly.  Not everyone instinctively knows how to settle an infant and if we're being honest with ourselves, we probably didn't do a good job of it the first few days either.  But we worked at it 24/7 and most dads don't get the same chance.  Give him the chance.