One of my co workers just asked how I was feeling. I thought she was being nice and asking how I was feeling after the m/c, so I gave my standard "hangin' in there" response. Apparently she is the only one in the office that had not heard about the miscarriage. She followed up with "Any morning sickness?" At which point I had to say, in front of about 5 other people "You didn't hear? I lost the baby...about 2 weeks ago...when I was out for a few days..."
Ugh. I don't know who felt worse..her or me. Then, because I don't want other people to feel uncomfortable, I had to make a lame joke "Yeah.. so the answer would be no! No morning sickness... anymore..." as I hurried back to my desk to try and compose myself.
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That sucks! But it really sounds like you handled it well.
Oh that's terrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds like you handled it beautifully, but it's one of those things where you're back at work, dealing with everyday stuff - then whamo - you get blindsided. It can make a day really turn sucky fast.
I had this happen to me a week ago. The really bad news is that this particular guy at work is deaf and wears a hearing aid. So when he was asking me how many months I had to go and I told him "the baby died" he didn't hear me, so I had to say it again, except louder. He turned positively grey and I started to cry (not sob - just tears falling). It was awful. I would just like to have a sign over my head sometimes saying "This woman's baby just died. Please cut her some slack, be kind to her and pregnant woman or people with babies find somewhere else to be. Thank you."
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That sucks. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I went through something similar last week when I co worker pat my stomach and said "Oh you're barely showing!"
I started to just walk away but then she kept talking so I finally turned to her with tears and said "I lost the baby."
And just like you, I don't know who felt worse at that exact moment.
I wish people would just mind their own business anyways, I'd never even told anyone at work I was pregnant for that exact reason but they figured it out.
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BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
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