My miscarriage started on Friday, at least the bleeding started then. The night before was the first time me and my fiance' had sex since we found out I was pregnant. I read website after website that said sex is safe during pregnancy. I had an orgasm and my fiance' finished inside me. I can't help but think that this is our fault. Did my orgasm do something to hurt the baby? Did the baby somehow drown or dissolve or something because what my fiance' did? It probably sounds dumb but I feel this somehow could have been prevented.
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First of all don't feel dumb for asking a question here. No having sex did not cause your miscarriage but I understand the fear. Even KNOWING this myself I still had a hard time having sex after we got pregnant the second time. Everything I have read says that orgasms are actually good (as in comforting, the contracting muscles act like a rocking chair almost, swaying and rocking the baby).
Unfortunately you usually can't prevent a miscarriage. It is normal to want to try but its usually those of us who literally did everything right that end up here while all the selfish, unhealthy, and uncaring people end up with healthy babies (and hold on, I am NOT saying that all healthy babies are born to people like this!!!). It will make you crazy if you keep questioning if YOU did something to cause it. But it is still a normal thing to think.
The only way to know for sure what happened would be to do testing on the baby and other tissues or to have tests run on you and your fiance. Unfortunately even these tests often do not yield any results.
I'm sorry for your loss but i'm glad you made your way to this board.
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