Smoking

Mirage222

My mother-in-law watches the baby Monday-Thursday at my house and my parents watch her on Friday's.  Well my MIL mentioned the other day if once in a while we could bring her over to her house.  My MIL's boyfriend smokes, outside that is, but still he brings the smell into the house and I really don't like that around the baby.  I have been avoiding taking her over there.  What would you do?

MWoodside

This is one thing I am psycho about (yes I admit it).  I do not want DD around 3rd hand smoke.  My step-dad smokes & we've been straightforward with him since I was pregnant about our feelings/concerns.  If he wants to hold DD he needs to be showered & not smoke.  He understood completely.  SOmetimes he will smoke while we are there & smell like it so then he doesn't even ask to hold DD even though he loves her so much. 

I know some people might think this is extreme, but I am not willing to compromise about it.

Dr.Loretta

I would tell her I'm not comfortable having your LO around cigarette smoke, and the current arrangement is working out great.

danto

If BF ALWAYS smokes outside and doesn't hold LO till after he's showered I don't see an issue. 

If there's residue in couches, walls etc, then you may have to refuse.

 

ashnoelle

danto:

If BF ALWAYS smokes outside and doesn't hold LO till after he's showered I don't see an issue. 

If there's residue in couches, walls etc, then you may have to refuse.

 

this is kinda how I feel about it. My SO smokes (always outside) but our apartment has no smell or anything. It is probably for that reason that it doesn't seem like a big deal to me.

It seems like your mind is made up though and it obviously bothers you. Ask to keep the previous arrangement.