Shower related WWYD?

akastephyrey

So when we got married we kept it as small as we could about 120 ppl mostly family. I did not invite my staff at work as them and their spouses would've added a whole other table we could not accomodate.. I did invite my boss and two women that I am social with outside of work and consider very close friends.

I have 6 women who work under me and we are a relatively close bunch. My newest member joined the team 3 years ago so we've been together along time.

They are so excited about the baby and I'd like to invite them to the shower BUT would you open that invite and think "Nice...not good enough to attend her wedding but good enough to buy her kid a gift"

I am not sure what to do here.

TIA, you ladies always open my eyes to a different POV.

kanaud

I had the exact same issue with my work situation.  My wedding was at the beginning of this year and I felt so bad only inviting a select few (ones I am social with outside of work). 

So, one day one of my friend/coworkers and I were out to lunch and I actually brought it up with her.  I was telling her I would be more then happy to have everyone at the shower, but I still felt bad about not inviting them to the wedding and I asked her what I should do......

She actually surprised me and said they were throwing me my own shower!  I guess all the girls from work had decided it would be a nice idea to have my own shower here at work one lunch hour.  That way I do not have to worry about who gets invited etc.

long story short, maybe just talk with one of your coworkers who you are socially friends with and see what her take is, you might be surprised.

akastephyrey

Thanks I was thinking of that but I hesitate as these women actually report to me. I don't want to put someone on the spot where they would feel weird being honest.

I think I might be able to ask one girl without offending her, she gave me a coupon to Kohls' for a bra sale as she knows I am quickly outgrowing mine so I think we are officially off of guest manners, LOL.

LaLaaaa

I totally agree with Bubbles and Icarley.  I think baby showers are less formal and that people understand not getting an invite.  But I would also be worried (cause I'm a spaz) and might consider asking one of the co-workers who you're friendly with what their take on it might be.  I think it's fine though, I would be flattered to get an invite

akastephyrey

Thanks Ladies!