There is a one-month old crying it out as we speak.. :(

delphinus12

And my heart is hurting! One of my FB friend's status is that she wished she knew how to interpret cries and she is "just letting her go at it in her crib"

WWYD? She is not a close friend...

sleepingbeauty825

Ugggghhh.

emilysmommy2010

I'd tell her that she doesn't need to do that and explain that babies can't self soothe until 6 months. If she doesn't want to take care of her kid then she shouldn't have had sex!

paratender83

if she has done all she knows to do then I don't think it's an awful thing....

maybe mom just needs to regroup for a few minutes

delphinus12

Anyone have a good web reference I can direct her to?

lil_rhody

Maybe she is overwhelmed? Are you nearby enough to offer to help? Is the baby colicky? Sometimes you just need to put the baby down and walk away. That is not the same as CIO. I can't tell which it is from your post.

bb80

send her a fb message, ask if she needs help, how long has baby been crying etc.

 

SassyPanties

I would say something along the lines of

"aww, that sounds really hard Sometimes just holding LO is the only thing I can do, even he is crying, at least he knows I'm there.  Do you need some company mama?  Let me know if I can help"

delphinus12

I'm not close enough to offer help

 

 

delphinus12

I'm not close enough to offer help in person 

 ETA: I like that Sassy, I think I will do that!

 

Ivana_Stolichnaya

I would say if she's letting her LO CIO because she's stressed and needs to take a break away before she loses it then that is fine.  If she's trying to sleep train at 1 month old then she needs to have someone clue her in about her baby being too young for that.

sleepingbeauty825

Sassy_Panties:

I would say something along the lines of

"aww, that sounds really hard Sometimes just holding LO is the only thing I can do, even he is crying, at least he knows I'm there.  Do you need some company mama?  Let me know if I can help"

Oooh, that is good!!

delphinus12

She just updated- The little tyrant is asleep!! (I just took a shower-at this rate I'll be the cleanest mom on the block!).

Princessn678

delphinus12:

She just updated- The little tyrant is asleep!! (I just took a shower-at this rate I'll be the cleanest mom on the block!).

That makes me sad. My LO stress me out sometimes but to call your LO a tyrant is a bit harsh.  

AmyLee11

delphinus12:

She just updated- The little tyrant is asleep!! (I just took a shower-at this rate I'll be the cleanest mom on the block!).

ahh, that is sad.  a one month old little "tyrant"?  poor thing.

MrsMoody2006

I would tell her that even if she can't get her child to stop crying, she at least needs to be holding her and talking to her so that her child knows she cares. 

ANJ410

I'm not advocating it and it is not how I would have handled my one month olds, but the AAP book does say that if your cannot console your newborn, it is okay to put them down in a safe place and let them cry. Not everyone hangs out on these boards and is an expert on CIO do's and dont's.

IrishBrideND

ANJ410:

I'm not advocating it and it is not how I would have handled my one month olds, but the AAP book does say that if your cannot console your newborn, it is okay to put them down in a safe place and let them cry. Not everyone hangs out on these boards and is an expert on CIO do's and dont's.

 

Thats different. I've NEVER seen a non troll on these boards say anything negative about stepping away to regroup. Thats different than CIO just because (which the AAP does not endorse at one month)

blissfully_caffeinated

I'd send her THIS link. It helped me a lot in the beginning. Poor baby!

k.martell

There were a handful of times that I put LO down in her crib crying for a few minutes just so that I could regroup and collect myself before reaching the point of explosion.  As others have said there's a difference between CIO and needing to take a break for a moment.

 Message her asking what type of help she needs.  I personally found 2 books that really helped, Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Karp and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby by Dr. Weissbluth.  Once I realized that LO was over tired and I needed to pay attention to her sleep cycles and sleep signs (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby book) things dramatically changed for the better.

The Baby Whisper site has a lot of great info (I go there when I need serious advice)  and another site I like is Dr. Weissbluth's blog, https://weissbluthmethod.wordpress.com/