Can I jump on the MIL vent bandwagon?

bumpuser260585

Yesterday I went to a bridal shower for DH's cousin.  I'm sitting at a table with my MIL and she out of nowhere tells me that she does not want to be called Grandma when the baby comes.  Fine, her choice.  So I ask her what she wants to be called and she said Sha-Sha.  WTF. Her name is Sharon, so I guess that is where she gets it, but really?  I said fine, if that is what she wants.  But after I got home I told DH, who vetoed it.  I told him that he would have to be the one to tell her.

 Then she proceeds to tell me that she was looking at my registry and thinks that the pump I registered for is too fancy.  And I don't need all the bells/whistles.  I registered for the Medela PISA, after reading tons of reviews.  Originally I had registered for a cheaper one, but after reading the reviews decided to go with a better one.  She tells me that she just had an old-fashioned hand pump and it worked fine.  She was a SAHM.  I told her that I only get a 30 min lunch break at work and a hand pump will not work for my situation.  She said, well, I don't want you to think that breastfeeding and pumping are easy and I think you shouldn't expect someone to buy you a $300 pump.  Um, I didn't tell you you had to buy it.  I'm hoping someone will buy it, but it is really only on the registry so I can use the completion coupon on it. 

Thanks for letting me vent.  I guess I need to go look on the internet somewhere for an I love Sha-Sha frame since I was going to give her a framed baby pic for Christmas!

paigeapoe

My MIL also doesn't like grandma... or said she didn't. She was looking at Gigi and Meme... I think... but as it gets closer and she has gotten used to the idea, she has started calling herself G-ma so I think maybe that will be what we call her. I honestly don't care because to me, She is a grandma... and if she is going to say things like "They'll have to wait in line after Gma... that's fine.." she's grandma in my mind and that's what I'll refer to her as lol. I think it is kidna stupid... I have an aunt who does the same thing... I think it is vane... you are your age and you are a grandma, if you don't look like it, you'll get plenty of comments "oh you are too young to be a grandma" anyway.

mb1210

I don't understand why all these women seem to have a problem with being called Grandma. It is what it is- You're a freakin grandmother. Deal with it already!

As far as the registry, if she doesn't like what you registerd for, she doesn't need to buy it. Plain and simple! I am planning on spending $300 for a double electric pump (the Ameda one). It is huge investment, but I did a ton of research and decided that's the one I wanted. My sister made a fuss because she had a Medela hand pump and thought that's what I should have too. Well, it worked for her, but it isn't feasable for me to handpump with my schedule. And I really don't like the shields on Medelas. I'm sure you did a ton of research too and decided your pump was best for you. She needs to mind her business and keep her unwanted advice to herself. IMO.

Does it keep seeming like we (the pregnant ladies) are getting blamed for a lot of hormonal bitchiness, but if these opinionated relatives of ours would just quit with the unsolicited advice and opinions, we might not be so hormonal and bitchy? If we want their advice, we'll ask for it.

 

DaisyCakes18

You should tell your MIL that there's a good chance your LO will be the one to name her...my cousin couldn't say Nanny and Papa so his grandparents on the other side became Ninny and Peepee for awhile. Not the most flattering names, lol, but that's what the baby called them and it started to stick!

bumpuser260585

LindyBugg:

You should tell your MIL that there's a good chance your LO will be the one to name her...my cousin couldn't say Nanny and Papa so his grandparents on the other side became Ninny and Peepee for awhile. Not the most flattering names, lol, but that's what the baby called them and it started to stick!

That is a good idea.  I'm just worried about when he is like 15, is he still going to call her Sha-Sha?  I think that sounds ridiculous.  And she is almost 60, it isn't like she is young enough to not want to be called grandma.

lesullenger

My mom is doing Grandme rather than Grandma because it has been a family thing on that side. I think Nana, Grammy and other classic variations on the name is okay, and it makes it easy to tell the difference in the sides of the family. BUT its still a grandma name.

roxy270

Ugh about ur MIL!

First of all I don't care what you want to be called,you're still GRANDMA!! I'm glad your DH has vetoed her choice and will be the one to break her lil heart!!!

Re: breast pump---so nerve!! You keep what you want on registry and glad you had a good esponse for her!! Good girl!

Let me vent real quick about my MIL.  At my last dr's appointment I was told I'm measuring 2 weeks further along.  My DH told my MIL and she said I better lose weight or I'll have to have a c-section.  Is she serious?  I let my DH have it on this one, cuz he thinks his mom can do no harm.  I'm thinking he actually believed her for him to felt the need to tell me you know?! Oh I was beyond upset when got that message.  I can't wait for her to tell me something to my face, I'll have a smart comment for her! The other comment she had told me directly was about me buying used items for baby (clothes  and furniture).  She said, poor baby, he's the first one (our first baby) and we're giving him all used stuff.  She's stupid, I'm trying to save money where I can...Of course I get good quality, my baby isn't going to have junk!

 Anways, MILs are crazy old women!

apokatie

Not to be mean BUT... there's a strip club in my town and one of the girls who "dances" there is called SHA-SHA! I thought that it was extremely funny when I read that.....

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 My husbands grandma didnt want to be called Grandma (with the 1st grandkid she was like 30 something) and she wanted to be called Matwo but the grandson couldnt say it and called her Bashoo and it has stuck with all of the grandkids and now great grandkids.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

dehsignz

Ugh isn't it the worst? My MIL keeps telling me how she is so stressed over money and bills are crazy but then she tells me how she is always on our registry and she is trying to hard to buy all this stuff.

I have tried to explain she does not need to buy anything off of it, that it is NOT a list of demands. 

Why don't people get this? A registry is a list of things we need, helps us get organized and prepared and is helpful should someone WANT to know what we need. Nobody has ever said it is a list of demands. I am pretty sure we all understand these are OUR children and we as parents will buy whatever we need. If someone doesn't want to spend $300 on a pump, then don't.

My MIL went crazy on me about our stroller choice. We never intended to register for us, we purchased it on our own from a small boutique store, it was crazy expensive but what we wanted. When she asked me what stroller we were planning on I tried to ignore the question but she kept hounding me. So I finally told her and her response was "I can't afford that!" Good cause I NEVER asked you too, we are buying it on our own for our child. 

Sheesh!!!