(NBR) We lost a friend :(

principessa81

I went on Facebook after we came home from mass yesterday, and found out that one of our friends/DH's co-worker (they're in the Army) was killed in Afghanistan this weekend. I sat on the couch crying, and had to break the news to DH. I don't think I've ever seen him so upset. This poor man had only one month left over there, then he was scheduled to come home. He left behind a wife and two young children, and my heart is just breaking for them. We are going to try and go to the funeral once we know more details, but I have no idea what I can say or do for his poor wife, and I'm worried about DH. He was just commenting yesterday morning on how lucky he was that he's been in the Army for 10 years and been through multiple deployments, but never lost anyone close to him.

kanaud

I am extremely saddend and sorry for your loss.  God bless all of the men and women overseas defending us here back home. 

principessa81

Thank you for your kind words, ladies. DH just talked to a couple of guys from his unit and we may end up going to the funeral. I know DH wants to say goodbye, so we're going to look in to that.

jcrawford76

I'm so sorry for your loss.

missliz01

I'm so sorry to hear this, t & p to you guys and his family.

Tamzin418

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It's a loss to all of us when someone dies in the service of the country.  Yesterday at church the minister had what she called a "healing service" where anyone who wanted to could put a rock into a vase of water and say who that rock was for so that we could all hold that person in our hearts.  I put a rock in for all the current and past members of the military and their families.  It doesn't make the pain and loss any less but I'll send prayers and good wishes to you, your husband, the lost soldier, his wife, and all who are grieving his loss.

principessa81

Tamzin418:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It's a loss to all of us when someone dies in the service of the country.  Yesterday at church the minister had what she called a "healing service" where anyone who wanted to could put a rock into a vase of water and say who that rock was for so that we could all hold that person in our hearts.  I put a rock in for all the current and past members of the military and their families.  It doesn't make the pain and loss any less but I'll send prayers and good wishes to you, your husband, the lost soldier, his wife, and all who are grieving his loss.

That is so kind of you, and what a nice thing for your minister to do. I really like that idea.

bosha711

I am sorry for your loss ((hugs))

Sezjj

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can your DH can make the funeral to say goodbye. It is never an easy thing to do, but know that you are in our thoughts and hearts.

LW2410

I'm so sorry for your loss.

In regards to his family, I would take over a dinner when things have settled down a little and let them know that you are here for them. I think the best that you can do, is to be a willing listener and a friend to rely on.

principessa81

LNwalker81:

I'm so sorry for your loss.

In regards to his family, I would take over a dinner when things have settled down a little and let them know that you are here for them. I think the best that you can do, is to be a willing listener and a friend to rely on.

Thank you. That's a wonderful idea and it's something we would love to do; unfortunately we live right outside of Boston and his wife and kids live in Germany (they're having the funeral in Missouri). I think some of the other family members in Germany are bringing meals over, though. 

LW2410

principessa81:

LNwalker81:

I'm so sorry for your loss.

In regards to his family, I would take over a dinner when things have settled down a little and let them know that you are here for them. I think the best that you can do, is to be a willing listener and a friend to rely on.

Thank you. That's a wonderful idea and it's something we would love to do; unfortunately we live right outside of Boston and his wife and kids live in Germany (they're having the funeral in Missouri). I think some of the other family members in Germany are bringing meals over, though. 

Oh, I'm sorry about that. I'm not sure how else you could reach out to them besides just letting her know that you are there for her, as a friend.

I would send her a personal letter later down the road, too, just to touch base with her. I know it always means a lot to people when you hand write letters, especially after a little while, so they know that they are still in your thoughts.

welshgirl

I so sorry for you, and for his family's loss. How tragic. Sending many T&P.

cc605

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend! Many prayers for his family and you, and your H.