Scheduled C-Section Dilema

awireman

My OB stated that we would probably do a scheduled c-section due to a surgury I had after giving birth to my ds.  I am ok with that, however she wants to do it 10 days prior to my due date, which I know doing it early is not uncommom.  The problem is that day will be one year from when my FIL passed away.  My dh thinks this is great and will good for his family.  I however want another date.  I do not want my child to share this date with such a sad event?  I am going to ask my ob on thursday if we can do another day, even just one day before or after.  Am I being ridicoulous to not want it on this day? What would you do/

njmoh

I'm torn on this one, In a way I agree with DH  but I also see your side as well. Sorry I'm no help

JReeds9

I am in favor of turning a sad day into a happy day.

 DH's father passed away when he was 15. I never knew the date. When picking our wedding date I picked the day he passed. DH's family welcomed the happy event on that day and even though I was unsure of it at first I'm glad we picked that day.

MrsBarkel2B

My best friend Kara's died in a horrific farming accident on July 25th.  It was an awful day for her family, her mom especially.  When Kara went into labor and delivered her daughter on the same day 5 years later it made the date so much easier for Kara's mom.  Rather than mourning life they celebrated it.

EStar628

Are you sure you have that date?  When we scheduled my first c/s, they told me the 27th, but when they confirmed it, it ended up being on the 29th due to when the OR and doctors were available.  

chemmom

I think if you want it on another day you should talk to your OB.

Erin

mylesmomma

If you feel that strongly about it then I would talk w/ your dr.  In the past though, I've found the usually have a specific day of the week they do their surgeries so it might not move.

magdalina.h

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all. My OB will schedule my c/s between 37-39wks. 37 weeks is on the anniversary of the day that we buried Aidan. We're waiting until 38 weeks to give enough time between Aidan's birthday, passing and the new baby's birthday.

Mrs.Carlybella

I see both sides-  but since it is DH's father- I would go with his feelings over mine in this.  If he thinks it is special-  I would not want to take that away from him.

krys2729

Mrs.Carlybella:

I see both sides-  but since it is DH's father- I would go with his feelings over mine in this.  If he thinks it is special-  I would not want to take that away from him.

i agree.  in this situation, your DH's feelings are more important.  it was his DAD.  if he wants to turn the day into his child's birthday, i think you should make the concession.  jmo, and i've lost both my parents.