Weird Situation

b2b999

I was at a picnic with a few friends the other night and one brought up my m/c - she asked how I was feeling and if we were trying again. 

I told her we were trying but really tried to divert the conversation back to other topics. But then a different friend of mine mentioned her m/c from a few years back.

She has mentioned it before and frankly I don't believe her. Having gone through it now (and yes I know that it is different for different people) and hers was supposedly earlier. But it doesn't really seem to fit. The way she talks about how it happened, when, where, and what she did in the days to follow...I simply don't believe her.

Would you say anything to her? In the end it doesn't really matter whether she had a m/c or not - but part of me, now that I've experienced one, feels like if she didn't and she is just lying about it for attention, or sympathy, or whatever she thinks she's gaining by saying it, it makes me angry.

 

rock-elle

No, I wouldn't say anything...She sucks if she is lying but what will you gain if you called her out and she is lying?  or what if she isn't and you called her out..imagine if the rolls were reversed and someone said you were lying?

I know this sucks and it's hard and I'm sorry.  However, you do have someone now IRL that you can talk about m/c with..that I think you should talk a lot about it...if you are picking up what I'm putting down  

millejj1

In case she really did, I wouldn't say anything. It's already hard enough when people pretend nothing happened, let alone if someone said they didn't believe you.

I would just try to avoid the topic with her altogether.

Rawr08

Every woman is different, and that could just be the case.  I would definitely not say anything to her about it.  I would feel like it isn't any of my business, I mean what kind of person would lie about going through such an awful thing? If she did lie, she has to deal with it.

ColleenS629

I don't really think there's any way you can say anything. It's not like you can come out and say "I think you're lying about having a m/c."

Kristin&Adam

I wouldn't bring it up, even if she is lying, it's not going to accomplish anything.. and if she's not, you're going to look like a very insensitive jerk