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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
My mom does not agree with extended rear facing.
I even sent her a link to the video that's going around. She is so concerned about how it will inconvenience her. She watches DD two days per week and wants to take her places. She has a large pick up truck and cannot have the carseat in the middle of the back seat because "her work stuff has to go there." The carseat will not fit in a side seat rear facing because it is too big. She does not want a different carseat. I have offered to switch cars with her the days she watches her but for some reason she does not want to do that.
I am just irritated because she has the whole attitude that she knows more than me about the safety of my child. She thinks I am too overprotective and conservative. It doesn't help that DH told her that the carseat inspector said it was ok to forward face at 1 year and 20 pounds. Ugh.
FWIW...I will be rear facing until dd maxes out the weight limit, even if it pisses my mom off.
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Re: My mom does not agree with extended rear facing.
Wow. Just wow.
Maybe she shouldn't take her places then. If she's going to be a butt about it, she'll just have to be confined in her house those two days a week.
Has she seen the comparison videos on Youtube? Does she really think you're just being too protective and that it's not actually safer?
I agree - I wouldn't let her take the baby anywhere until she figures out a way to rear face.
I totally believe it's up to each individual parent on when to FF, but I sincerely hope the law changes soon because it seems so obvious that 1 yr and 20 lbs is too early! Plus, it doesn't matter whether you decided to FF or RF, your mom should go with it because it is your decision, not hers!
FWIW I had a pickup and the covertible would RF just fine in the middle so she will have to deal with it!
I agree with PP that she wil just have to stay home those days. You have given her ample options, it's not your problem she is unhappy with her choices.
A. Switch cars with you.
B. Move work junk those 2 days
C. Get a carseat that fits RF where she wants in the car
D. Stay home.
Your child, your rules. I would think that grandma would want her to be as safe and secure as possible EVEN if it was a little inconvenient for her.
Umm, you just perfectly described my mom. She's the exact same way, she doesn't let me take care of MY child the way I want too. She also thinks I'm too overprotective and keeps asking me when I'm going to turn the carseat around. I'm just giving her the runaround on that subject. Little does she know that that's the last thing on my mind.
I'm just glad my mom never takes him anywhere without me in tow because she's the type of person who would ignore my wishes and turn it around herself.
Anyway, back to you. Do NOT possibly sacrifice your child's life in order to spare her feelings. Yeah, sounds a bit dramatic but in the end, that's what this is all about.
GL!
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FWIW...I will be rear facing until dd maxes out the weight limit, even if it pisses my mom off.
You go! I can't believe your mom would want to place her "work stuff" ahead of the safety of her grandchild! Very selfish, glad you're standing your ground.
What pick up truck does she have? We had a Ford F150 (crew cab) and a Marathon rearfacing on the passenger side very easily....
If she won't respect the rear facing carseat thing, well then you only have a couple of options: she doesn't take your child anywhere or you find someone else to babysit. (You've already mentioned the other things that could work, but she declined - switching vehicles, getting different carseat).
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Google extended rear facing and I'm sure you'll see pictures of what older kids do with their legs. Toddlers are pretty flexible.
Are you serious??? She put your 9 month old FF??? That's not only incredibly unsafe but it's illegal!
DD is 3yo. She's fairly tall for her age at 40". Just to give you an idea of her size, she's tall enough to wear 4T clothes. She also sits RFing. She sits cross legged. She sits with her feet together and knees out. She sits with her heels propped up on the back of the seat next to the headrest. She dangles her legs off to either side of the carseat. She's a preschooler, she's in constant motion and even when she's on the couch at home she sits in weird positions that wouldn't be comfortable for me. And she is *quite* capapble of voicing any and all complaints. Loudly. And in detail. Repeatedly. But she's never complained about her RFing carseat. Actually, she enjoys watching the cars "chasing" us out the rear window.
Thank you everyone for your input. I would have replied yesterday but DD woke from her nap and I was very eager to get my play on : )
Anyway, yes, my mom has seen the youtube video. And to answer the questioned asked, no, my mom does not charge us to watch DD. She is great with her, but just has her priorities messed up. In her eyes she is not jeopardizing DD's safety. She thinks most of the newly researched information out there is ridiculous. She knows she has to abide by my rules, but that doesn't mean I won't hear about it until the end of time. Because you know, I turned out just fine
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This.