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feeling sorry for myself

DawneecakesDawneecakes
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Today was my first day back at work (I'm a teacher) and one of my close colleagues announced she was pregnant.  It felt like I was stabbed in the heart.  I felt so sad and sorry for myself.  I'm sure it's normal that I felt this way but had no idea I would.  This is the first "I'm pregnant" announcement since my loss.  It sucked! 
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  • Aubs13Aubs13 member
    Ugh...I'm sorry.  Hearing announcements has been hard for me, too, even though I'm happy for my friends.....I think what you're feeling is totally normal. 
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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member
    ((((hugs)))) Is she a close colleague? Like on your team? Hopefully you wont have to see her often around the school.


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    The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete.
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  • DawneecakesDawneecakes
    We both teach first grade and she is in the room 2 doors down.  I see her every day and we have lunch together.  I'm happy for her but it totally sucked.  
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  • stillbakingstillbaking member
    Feeling that way is totally normal. It's a mixed, bittersweet bag... Hugs.
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    TTC#1 since May 2009
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  • luckymrs.luckymrs.

    I'm so sorry.  That's really tough.

    I'm waiting for good friends of ours to tell us they're pg.  I'm sure they are (by our interactions, what she's doing/not doing, etc.), but I think they're delaying telling us because of our loss.  I'm bracing for the news, but still knowing it's going to be very difficult to hear (and follow with them throughout the pregnancy knowing it should have been us, too).

     ((Hugs))

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  • BlakeGBlakeG member
    I'm so sorry sweetie.  Announcements are really hard to handle.  You can't but think about your own situation and the unfairness of it all.  Huge hugs.
    Natural BFP - 2/13/10, Natural M/C - 3/9/10 (Missed m/c found at 8wks 4days) Prenatal B/W shows I'm a Beta Thal carrier & so is DH. Onto IVF w/PGD... Jan 2011 - IVF #1 - C/P Mar 2011 - IVF #2 - Day 5 PGD, no ET, 5 snow babies May 2011 - FET #1 - BFP!! Twins!!! 2/9/12 - Our precious miracles arrived! Baby A 7lbs 13oz & Baby B 5lbs 13oz
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  • Karen1998Karen1998 member
    It just knocks the wind out of you doesn't it?  It totally sucks.  But, it does get easier.  Hang in there!
    BFP#1 4/17/10...EDD 1/6/11...M/C 5/28/10 BFP#2 11/19/10...EDD 8/4/11 Squeaker born 7/30.
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  • Gilgenbach2007Gilgenbach2007 member
    So sorry, I know just how you feel.  I hope it gets easier for you to see/talk to her.
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  • VeilSdeGTOVeilSdeGTO member
    I'm sorry. I just had the same thing happen to me this week. Two pregnant co-workers! It's a small school so no real way of avoiding them. Ugh!
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  • Kristin&AdamKristin&Adam
    I'm sorry - that is really tough :( Hugs to you!
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  • liveforhimliveforhim member
    I'm so sorry:( Does she know your story? I hope this school year won't be hard for you: ((HUGS))
    So excited for our little blessing:)
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  • maddiemoon43maddiemoon43 member
    I am sorry you had a bad start to your year.  Hopefully she's the only person you'll have to deal with for a bit. 
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  • ikissedthecookikissedthecook
    Those feelings are completely normal but it doesn't change the fact that it still sucks. I'm sorry. (((Hugs)))
    married 09.06.08
    BFP #1 - m/c on 12.22.09 @ 8w3d
    BFP #2 - d&c on 07.22.10 @11w1d
    BFP #3 - DS born on 06.22.11 @41w3d!
    BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
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