When you test?

Izabella22

Do you tell your DH? I'm curious because the first couple of times I tested when I wasn't sure, I don't think I told him. This time I've already got it planned out and have told him when I plan on testing if I don't get af. Which seems weird but somehow being more open about everything makes me think it'll be ok... or maybe I just need more support this time.  Just curious if you let your DH know you're testing or not, mine is aware when its "go time" and that's about it historically.

cherylanddoug

The first time I tested I did not tell him.  I was on the pill but skipped my period so I got worried--we were not ready for a child, and the test showed a BFN.

  The next time I tested DH knew/was in the room (we have a master suite so the BR is attached to the bedroom, he didn't watch me do it LOL).   We decided when we would test, it was a BFP.  I am not going to ever be one of the girls who tests before AF is due (I also am not charting yet). 

We try to do things as a team so I will tell him the next time I think we should test too. 

owenst

I don't usually tell him.  He's optimistic I don't want to burst his bubble. I tell him any time he asks, but he's not as worried about it happening soon as I am, so he doesn't think about it constantly and I don't want to make him do that.

jamilynn9

We take them together.  The first few times we tested DH was off for two weeks and I was waking him up so I could use FMU.  He was upset bc he felt he couldn't get super excited while he was 1/2 asleep.  I agreed.  We got our BFP together just before bed one night (kinda gross but I brought the pee stick in bed wrapped in a tissue).  Needless to say he doesn't mind if I find out first and surprise him, but I want him right there with me when I find out.  There's just something in celebrating together that I can't imagine doing otherwise.

sunflowr0803

I do tell my DH, he is curious about charting & stuff. So he would know if I was around testing time!

shelshel79

I don't usually tell him, but if he asks I don't lie.

TheGregory's07

With Ian yes, it was his sisters idea. She was about to go out of the country for 2 weeks and I had said something smelled horrible, so she begged me too. 

With the second BFP, No he was sleeping it was almost midnight. I just felt off, I didn't think I was. I did go in and wake him up as soon as I saw the second line.  

anonomity

Yes, I tell him.  He knows pretty much everything about my cycle.  lol

sunshinenva

DH now knows about what time I start to test and if I don't tell him the results he asks about it.  DH also asks about OPKs all the time. 

I have to confess I have lied about "testing" time only because if/when I did get a BFP I want to totally shock him with great news.

jodyrm

I'm a POAS addict, so no.

It's embarrassing.

maymaymia

jodyrm:

I'm a POAS addict, so no.

It's embarrassing.

This!

shanna82

I didn't tell him pre-m/c.  But since I've been charting and learning so much about my body and TTCAL, I have told him pretty much everything 

spincat9

jamilynn9:

We take them together.  The first few times we tested DH was off for two weeks and I was waking him up so I could use FMU.  He was upset bc he felt he couldn't get super excited while he was 1/2 asleep.  I agreed.  We got our BFP together just before bed one night (kinda gross but I brought the pee stick in bed wrapped in a tissue).  Needless to say he doesn't mind if I find out first and surprise him, but I want him right there with me when I find out.  There's just something in celebrating together that I can't imagine doing otherwise.

That's wicked sweet!

DH asks me every day how my chart looks, so I show him and we talk about it, and he has learned a lot about it.  With testing I usually go do it, and then just casually say "we're not pregnant today" - I don't build it up for suspense - he has enough stress without sharing my anxiety on POAS...  It was funny though last year when we got our BFP, I walked up the stairs with it and just said "uhm, darling, it appears we are pregnant" - we were both in shock.  This time I think there will be screams, tears and jumping for joy.  Oh how things change!

magpiebride61210

I can't even pee on a normal basis without DH asking how it went. So the man knows everything. Of course I haven't gotten out of the woods far enough yet to POAS looking for a BFP. For now he asks on a daily basis how the OPK went. the man is no joke. I swear he thinks it's a science project.

But... the first time around he knew I was POAS and when I swung open the door to give him the good news it hit him in the face. Poor thing had his ear against the bathroom door. I would imagine the rest of the time we're trying things will go this way. god love him.

ColleenS629

anonomity:

Yes, I tell him.  He knows pretty much everything about my cycle.  lol

This for me too. He asks me if I have had a temp rise, confirms how many DPO I am, and how many more days until I can test lol. I test in the morning when he gets up so he can be there for it. I wouldn't want to find out either way without him there.  

SweetieD21

I've never told DH when I've tested.  With both my BFP's I've told him the news right away though.  This time, however, I've tested for the past 3 days, and still haven't told him!

UrbanWife

I don't usually tell him when I test. Maybe I'm weird but it stresses me out to have an audience. I kind of just like to digest whatever it is without him there and like to tell him later. I do tell him right away. I've only had one + and when he came home I ran downstairs waving the stick, lol.

Kristin&Adam

No, but I POAS a lot in the 2WW

With the + I got prior to the m/c, I got a BFP on a blue line test, which I've been told were notorious for false positives, so I called him at work and fussed at him for buying them.  It was bugging me ALL DAY though, so I went and bought a FRER at lunch and tested, then called him and told him at work because I couldn't wait

BzeetyD

I don't test during the 2ww, but when I have tested, I POAS and then set it on the bathroom sink and we both wait outside and then go in and look together.

Our first BFP, I was pretty certain something was up so it wasn't exactly a surprise to me. He was shocked and ecstatic, I was super ecstatic. We both cried and took a lot of photos with the "magic stick." I'm glad we shared that moment. I truly can't imagine finding out before he does, but that's just us.

ravenorchid

I don't usually mention it, unless I need his support about the result. And sometimes a BFN does require DH support. It depends on how I'm doing that day.