What do you tell your boss about appointments?

RunSchwartzRun

I have only worked here since mid-April and I don't know my boss that well yet, but I am concerned because I have already had multiple doctor visits and will have 2 next week back to back.  I feel like this visit to the RE next week will only ramp up the appointments even more.

Especially since I am new, I am not sure I really want to admit that I am TTC and want to go on maternity leave asap.  At the same time, he is very chatty and usually tells us every detail of where he is when he isn't here, and seems to expect the same.  He doesn't do it to be rude, he just seems to genuinely care about our families and outside lives.  So, it isn't so much an issue of getting time off since I have plenty of sick leave, but more about telling him I am taking off and him wondering what I am up to.

What do you do?  WWYD?

BlakeG

I am fortunate that I have an amazing boss who I also consider a friend.  When I have appointments I just tell her and that works for me. 

Being that you are new, it might not be the best idea though and honestly it's personal and no one's business if you don't want to share.  Can you just say you have doctor's appopintments without telling them why?  If he asks why maybe you can just be vague and say it's nothing to worry about just some stuff you need to take care of.

RunSchwartzRun

BlakeG:

I am fortunate that I have an amazing boss who I also consider a friend.  When I have appointments I just tell her and that works for me. 

Being that you are new, it might not be the best idea though and honestly it's personal and no one's business if you don't want to share.  Can you just say you have doctor's appopintments without telling them why?  If he asks why maybe you can just be vague and say it's nothing to worry about just some stuff you need to take care of.

Thanks.  I kind of want to tell him "I am not pregnant and I am not dying, but I have something going on that will require a lot of appointments so please bear with me."  I think he would laugh and say that's fine, but I am still scared for some reason.  I just don't want him thinking I am hiding a pregnancy or job searching or something like that even though I know he would probably let it go if I said nothing specific and just went to the appointments.

BlakeG

I acutally really like your answer because I think infusing some humor in there is always a great way to handle situations.  Good luck!

millejj1

I like your answer, but would probably word it more like I have some personal things I am working on that will require several doctors appointments but my health is not in jeopardy and will not affect my ability to perform my job.

SweetieD21

My RE's office opens at 7:30, so I always get an appt no later than 8am, so I can be at work by 9.

Kristin&Adam

My boss knows everything, but I also consider her a friend and someone I can talk to in rough times.  She' been very supportive - we've worked together (at this same office) for nearly 7 years.

In your situation, I'd probably tell him that you have some health care issues that need to be taken care of, but that it's nothing serious and nothing to worry about.

RunSchwartzRun

Thanks guys.  I am still thinking, but I appreciate your input.

AGFaso

Whew, I hope this response is worth it because it took 2 min to open a reply! LoL.  I would tell my boss what is going on, but only because we are friends.  But I am not a "personal" person, I tell people around me what is going on.  It is totally up to you, but if it were me, I would explain.  Good luck, there is no 'wrong' choice/!

sunshinenva

I am very blessed to not only have a job that is very flexible, but almost everyone at work knows how long we have been TTC so they ask no questions and allow me to come and go as I please.  Very Blessed!  I think being open and honest is the way to go.