So my research into this whole thing is going quite slowly and I'm already getting EXTREMELY confused. I am in the midst of reading Adoption for Dummies and have a info. webinar on the 16th through an agency. I was pretty certain the agency was the way to go, but then I spoke to an older friend of mine who is very influential in her community through church groups and connections she has and knows many families who have adopted. Well she recommended that we go with a private adoption and for me to write up a letter and hand deliver it to several OB/GYN offices in the area to begin advertising.
She said that the dr. offices typically take the letter but tell you that they cannot help with that type of situation, but behind closed doors the word gets out and many times they will contact drs they know from other states who will help advise their patients who are looking to find a family who wants a child. In most of the instances she is aware of, which is many over the years, this is how families have been most successful in a reasonable amount of time getting a child.
I don't really think I want to go this route but now I'm really confused about which way to go. Especially since my father-in-law knows a couple who spent years with an agency, were never selected and ended up having to hire an attorney afterwards. I'm curious how many of you went the attorney route for a private adoption and what type of advertising you did and how many of you went the agency route. I just don't want to make the wrong choice and regret it down the road.