The Stress of Getting PG at 42

Classicoyote

Good morning, ladies.  I just sit hear and wonder why it has to be so difficult and stressful getting PG.  I know the stress is self-inflicted but it's hard as I am sure you know.  I thought for sure I was PG this month yet, AF reared her ugly head.  I am now searching for a local Montgomery County, Maryland RE as well as a new OBGYN.

 My DH has been very supportive even though I know he's disappointed in this past month's result.

 I hope things are going well for the ladies I spoke with on my last post.  All of the support and advice has been greatly appreciated.

How do you keep everything from getting you down?

 

CityPixie

It seems we're all kinda down today.  I think my only way to cope is by posting!  Hang in there.  We're all in this together.

-Pix

 

YaraC

https://www.shadygrovefertility.com

mmz

I think all of us at one time or another have posted posts like yours. It's natural to feel down. I used to cry when AF showed herself. Now, after 11 cycles of trying, the way I cope... I expect NOT to be pg, so I'm not so disappointed by the BFNs. of course I'm still disappointed, but somehow this helps me. I know it's a negative way to think -- so I'm not sure if it's helping me in the long run! It's a coping mechanism, I guess.

 sorry about AF. let's hope that next month you get your BFP. Take care.

Classicoyote

Hi, Pix.

 Thanks for the support.  I've been spending my morning looking for an RE and the one fertility clinic here has an age cut-off of 44.  I'm 42.  Kind of made me even more depressed.  I really hope we can to this the natural way. 

I have been telling my DH that it's not fair, that these teenagers get pregnant who don't want to, but us women ready to share our with our own child have to seem to battle mother nature to get anywhere.  I've been with my DH for just over 6 years but have only been married since May.

If you don't mind my asking, how long have you been trying?

Talk to you later.

 Julie, Laytonsville, MD

Classicoyote

I just checked them out and found Dr. Stillman.  I'm sad to see their age cut-off is 44.

My sister-in-law is going to talk to her father-in-law, who is an OBGYN in New Hampshire and see if he can recommend someone here as well.  I'm checking all options.  Like I told you, I also need a new OB.

Thanks.

Classicoyote

 

Classicoyote

I know I'm not alone.  I had been doing what you suggested, but this time I just really felt I was.  I'm not going to get my hopes up but still try to keep it positive.

Thanks.  And good wish vibes coming your way too!

CityPixie

we have only been kind of trying since about may.  we just went straight to the RE but had some hiccups in the process (I found out I have endometriosis and had that surgically removed 2 weeks ago).  before that I had to get measels vaccine and you have to wait 30 days to get PG after that. We think we're going to start shots and get IUI either this cycle or next.  I don't care if we do it the natural way but it seems to be important for others.  I'm just not wanting to waste time.

-Pix

   

jcath

I'm sorry you are having a bad day.  It's just really hard.  I wish I had the magic secret to not being stressed - honestly I think I'm more stressed now that we are doing treatments b/c there is more information to obsess over.

Good luck finding a new RE and OB.

Eyerlande

I second Dr. Stillman. He is wonderful. Don't get down. I am 41 and had one successful IVF. LO was born in January, and I am in the middle of IVF treatments right now.

Classicoyote

Thanks.  As you know, it is such an up and down cycle.  I just ordered a new ovulation kit.  Clear Blue this time.  When my DH gets home I am going to talk to him about choosing an RE.    It's the age thing with them that really got me too!  I never felt so old.

Thanks again.  My best to you too!

Eyerlande

Thanks You. PM me anytime if you have questions about anything, the facility, docs, etc. Don't let the age thing get to you at all. My mother had my lil sis at 43. My grandmother had her latest in her 40's. Women are doing it more and more.

Classicoyote

I'd love to find out more.  Forgive me, but I am new to blogging and am not sure how to PM or add friends.  Can you help?

Eyerlande

Sorry for the delay. I was at lunch. I see you figured out the adding friends thing. If you click on my screen name you should see a box that says send a message. I'm kind of new at the whole message thing too.

Happymom68

I am so right there with you. I turned 42 in May and that was my cut off age I had in my head. Well since May I have had a chemical pregnancy immediately followed by a blighted ovum, an empty gestational sac found at my 6 week u/s which led me to miscarry last week when I should have been 9 weeks preg. I am so disappointed and am at the point do i throw in the towel or keep going. I kind of have the attitude just let it go and whatever might happen let it happen. I hate that I am 42 but I definitely take comfort in that I am not the only 42 yr old out there TTC. I loved seeing the tittle of your post:) Good luck to you and I feel your frustration!:)

HeatherIcon

Hi. I am so thankful to read this. I felt totally alone. I am 41, my DH and I just had our first round of injectable rx and we are in the tww--now.

I have never been pregnant before. We have been married for four years in July and my DH has been very sick, so we just started. I am hopeful. Although, the Dr's make me feel like being 40+ is the absolute worst thing ever....it is good to see that I am not alone. 

A good friend of mine who is 40, just conceived naturally and had a beautiful baby boy in July. I know it can happen. I am just trying to stay positive and think clearly about all of this. I know it is only my first try, but I had seven ripe follicles and DH was a champ that day with his delivery! 

Wish us good news on Friday--or I will just keep trying. There is a silver lining in every cloud! Happy thoughts to all!