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Pregnant after a Loss
what to do with myself..
I'm always nervous..running to the bathroom and such to make sure nothing is going on down there (three previous miscarriages). Everything is okay so far but i hate the fact that the doctors here dont really care about the fact ive had previous miscarriages...i asked if there was a reason my last one and the doctor laughed at me and said he isnt going to waste his time testing me because he knows im fertile since i have a three year old...well duh I know im fertile i just cant seem to stay pregnant!!! Anyways, after getting over the idea that i guess there not going to test me...i ended up getting pregnant again and now all i can think of is something is wrong and something is going to happen. My husband is Super excited this time and says this is it! he knows this is the sticky one! But what if it isnt and i let him down again... : ( He bought a sit and stand stroller yesterday from a thrift store and said he really wanted to start buying things early on so we could spread the cost of everything out..and he knew i wanted a sit and stand and it was cheap. Ugh this makes me nervous! I know i need to relax and enjoy this but its very hard..Sorry had to vent a little.
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Re: what to do with myself..
I'm sorry for your loss, but congratulations on this new pregnancy! What you're feeling is completely normal. I think anyone who's had a loss is more nervous about what could happen. It sounds to me like you need a new Dr! You're still very early and I would get started looking now. You really need someone who is understanding, sympathethic and proactive towards your situation.
GL!!!
Congrats & Welcome.
It does not make it any easier to be told you have a healthy child so everything is okay (I heard it too). You can read my story in bio/siggy. I too have a 3.5 year old, followed by 4 m/c.
I agree with pp that perhaps you're dr. isn't the right one for you. He should be taking your concerns seriously.
There is a good liklihood this will be you're sticky baby. Try to stay positive and take it one day at a time. I know easier said then done. Know that there is a great group of ladies here who are going through the same thing as you, its a great place for suport.
EDIT: Just re read your post that you had 3 losses previously. I think you definitly need to switch drs. This is not right.
4 losses (cp Feb 28 09, mc April 9 09 (5w5d), mc Aug 10 09 (7w1d), d&c Apr 12 10 (grew to 6w3d, mc confirmed at 8w5d). RX: Overies PCOS (hormones normal) & Balanced Translocation of Ch. 7 & 13 (40-50% mc risk)
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Would you consider changing doctors? Even if another practice didn't want to do any testing, you should at least be entitled to a doctor who will listen to you and is compassionate!
That said, I agree w/ pp - what you are feeling is normal. Its hard not to be scared and fear the worst. But you're pregnant, so congratulations! T&P to you and your family. I hope this is the one.
This!!
diagnosed with heterozygous Factor V Leiden 2008; m/c 11/09 @ 5 1/2 wks; m/c 5/10 @ 4 1/2 wks; RLP testing done, diagnosed with antiphospholipid syn. and low progesterone; 7/10 started on Heparin injections & progesterone supps @ 3 dpo, BFP 8/9/10!!!
I'm so sorry. I too had three previous m/c before getting this BFP and after having two healthy children. My OB was supportive though and with both d/c's for m/c2 and 3 did testing on the tissue. I honestly think you need to find another OB if possible who will be a bit more supportive to you. 40 weeks is a long time, and pregnancy comes with so many questions even after having a baby previously that you need someone that you can talk to.
Welcome and congratulations, wishing you the best of luck for a H&H 9 months.