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Potty training question (again!!)
Rena has been PT for awhile now and in the past couple weeks she's been going in the potty at least once or twice a day at school (she just goes part-time). They are really working with her since she's ready to move up to the next class but they have to be "almost potty trained" to move up. So I've been working with her a lot at home too...but she will not pee in the potty at home! It's so strange. She asks me to sit on it like every hour. And then goes in there and plays with the toilet paper, hangs out, and then flushes the toilet like 10 times. And then not 5 minutes after I put her diaper on she pees in it! We've tried Dora Pull-ups and she loves wearing them and pulling them on and off to sit on the potty. So I'm not sure if she's "ready" yet, but obviously she's going at school. She seems kind of shy why I'm standing there, so I've even tried stepping outside the bathroom for a couple minutes to see if she goes.
And when I see her note from school that she went potty, I make a big deal about it and tell her what a big girl she is,etc. But then she'll say no I didn't go potty at school! So I'm not sure what is going on! Anyone else's LO go through this, where there are more comfortable PT at school but not at home? Or any advice on what I should do at this point? We want her to move up the next class but don't want to push PT on her if she's not completely ready. TIA.
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Re: Potty training question (again!!)
No advice, as Bella does the same thing! Her teacher is always asking us how she does at home and when we tell her she won't go on her potty, she gives me the side eye. She tells us that Bella goes all the time at school - both pee and poop. But we cannot get her to stay on her potty at home. She'll even tell us she has to poop but if we take her to her potty, she won't sit on it.
Sooooo frustrating. I think the kiddos go at school because all their little friends are going. When Bella gets home, it's just her and she has no interest.
She is still pretty young, I honestly wouldn't push it. I think the more you force it, the more she's going to resist it at this point.
CallmeKel- I completely agree. We don't force anything on her, I just let her sit on the potty whenever she asks. If she wasn't going at school either, then I wouldn't think anything of it and just wait. And I guess I do feel a little pressure from the school since they keep saying she's so smart and ready to move up to the next class. She's the second oldest in her class now. They wanted to move her up next week when the fall semester starts, but she's not PT so they're waiting.
i took the same approach with maddy... she is so strong willed, i didn't want to push PT bc i knew she would resist it... so we tried to casually and slowly PT.
once she started telling me after she pooped in her diaper, i started putting her in pull-ups and asking her if she wanted to go sit on the potty whenever i could tell that she was going. most of the time she said yes, and would poop in the potty. she totally regressed after we got back from hawaii, though, and would never want to sit on the potty. again, i didn't push her to, but then she started denying that she had gone in her pull-up, and wouldn't want me to change it.
despite everybody saying she would regress with the arrival of the baby, i *really* wanted her to be PT before the baby came. so i bit the bullet, parked ourselves at home for the weekend and put her in panties. day 1 we had 4 accidents, day 2 - 2 accidents, day 3 - no accidents!
i didn't do anything special except constantly ask her if she needed to go and remind her to tell me if she did. i did offer rewards. she got 1-mini m&m if she would sit and try, 2- if she went. by the 3rd day, though, she wasn't even asking for her reward anymore. everytime she went we would make a HUGE deal out of it. so much so, that whenever i go, she makes a big deal out of it, and tells me she is proud of me!
she's not 100% there - we still remind her frequently and she still wears a pull up at night bc she has to have a glass of milk before bed - but she has definately made big strides.
i really think that putting her in panties helped a lot. when it comes time again, i think i will skip pull-ups altogether...
good luck!!
Thanks Alisa, that is very helpful! It sounds like Rena and Maddy are similar in many ways!!
I've heard the panty method from other friends as well. It's just hard with school because she needs to be in a pull-up or diaper until she's almost trained. She's obsessed with the Dora pull-ups and that makes her excited to sit on the potty! I think I'll just give it more time and hopefully she'll start going at home soon.
she'll get there, i'm sure!!
oh, and also a big incentive for maddy was also going shopping to pick out dora panties... just another thought!
if you want to go cold turkey to panties to see if that helps, maybe try over a holiday weekend, like labor day? it's just hard if you have plans!!
i agree with the panties. when dd started telling me she had to go and then to change her diaper, i set a date and we gave her diapers to the garbage men. before the date we set, we talked about it A LOT, what was going to happen, who she'd tell to go potty and went to buy big girl panties. she loved shopping for those.
when the day came, she was super excited to do it and give her panties away. we did it july, mdo was on break. we also did m&m reward and got to put on a new pair of panties every time she went potty. i have to admit i was happy when the m&m thing passed and she's not wanting to put on new panties every time anymore either.
i think my dd was ready and we just made a cold break from the diapers. good luck with your little girl. it's so much fun to watch them get so excited.
Girl, Hannah is 3 1/2 and not toilet trained. We've been training for over a year now, and she still refuses 95% of the time to tell us when she has to go. If I forget to remind her, she will never use the toilet on her own. She's been wearing underwear exclusively for 9 months (except bedtime), and she'll pee or poop in them and walk around like that without telling us. I have resisted the urge to put her back in pull-ups to make things "easier" on me though.
I know we've gotten stressed out over it, and I know it's making things worse. She was supposed to be toilet trained by the time she started her pre-K class this year, so we unfortunately tried using that "deadline" as incentive for her, but all it did was stress us all out, including her. Now we're paying the price. (Looking back, I should have known what a completely terrible idea that was!) Of course she started school last week (I fibbed and told the teachers she was trained) and hasn't had one accident since she's been there. It's partly because everyone takes group bathroom breaks, and she's with the pack. But I think even more, she's not going at home because she's stressed out by us. And at this point, it is SO hard not to get angry about it. Most of the time I can hold it back and be calm, but sometimes if I'm having a rough day, I gripe at her about it and that just sets us back again. She also has some horrible chronic constipation, so I'm sure that doesn't help.
Okay, so I know we're not in the same boat at all, but I just had to get it out! Lucky you, I chose your post in which to do it.
I think it's interesting what different schools require because they always make it sound like "this is the only way, everyone does it like this" but at DD's school pull-ups are not allowed at all!
I don't think you should worry about things being different at home vs daycare. Obviously, they already are different since she uses the potty there. So why not go to panties at home even though she might have to wear diapers at school for a while? DD was going to daycare 3 days a week when she PTd, and for the first month or two she was diaper-free at home but wore diapers at school. It didn't seem to bother her at all.
We did a modified 3-day method (I kept her diapers for sleeping) at 22mo. It took almost 2 weeks to get comletely accident free, but since then there have not been many accidents.
Vent away Dana!! I would feel so stressed out too! I already feel stressed out and we've barely started PT! I really try not to act stressed in front of her since I know it will make things worse. But I feel like we spend half of our afternoon/evening hanging out in the bathroom playing!
And thanks to everyone for the great advice! I think we will go cold turkey to panties one of these days (maybe over a long weekend) and see how it goes!