Getting just a little irritated

ksyknelvr73

This is just my small, petty vent for the day, so thank you for just letting me get it out.

I had my NT Scan yesterday and things were great, and the u/s tech "guessed" it was a boy. We ALL know that a gender prediction based solely off ultrasound at 13 weeks is not something we need to count on 100%. Also, I am excited no matter what I get...I will take anything, as long as it's a healthy baby in my arms at the end of these 40 weeks.

That being said, my mom was at the appt with me yesterday and she is just running around telling my immediate family and my DH that "it's a boy" and acting like it's set in stone. This REALLY bothers me. I am planning to find out for sure around 17 weeks, but if my mom acts like this for the next 4 weeks, I don't know what I am going to do. How do you tell your mom to chill the heck out?? She literally has convinced my dad, brother, sister, and my husband that it's a boy and everyone is calling the baby "he" and they are BUYING boy stuff.

Maybe I'm being silly...it just bothers me.

EStar628

I don't have any answers about how to reign Mom in, but just wanted to let you know that my mom is the same way.  When I got my BFP I told my mom about it, but then asked her not to tell anyone because it was still very early.  Of course, all of our family, her friends and half of our church knew within a week.  GL!

Swan21

I understand it being fustrating. But, maybe this will make you feel a little better. https://www.baby2see.com/gender/study_ultrasound.html it says in this study that at 13 weeks 80% of gender were assigned correctly. That seems like pretty good odds to me. And even the scan at 20 weeks is sometimes off. HTH!

RileyGrace

I completely understand where you are coming from.  It's very frustrating.

I'd tell her that you understand how exciting it is, and how excited she is, but she needs to keep this "guess" private.  Explain that it's not at all set in stone and you'd really appreciate being the one who decides what news to share and when.  And that it hurts your feelings when she does this.  If it was my Mom, I'd also tell her that if she doesn't dial it back she won't be getting anymore early info and she'll have to wait for details when they are public.

Good luck!  I hope she gets it and chills out.

 

madladybride

RileyGrace:

I completely understand where you are coming from.  It's very frustrating.

I'd tell her that you understand how exciting it is, and how excited she is, but she needs to keep this "guess" private.  Explain that it's not at all set in stone and you'd really appreciate being the one who decides what news to share and when.  And that it hurts your feelings when she does this.  If it was my Mom, I'd also tell her that if she doesn't dial it back she won't be getting anymore early info and she'll have to wait for details when they are public.

Good luck!  I hope she gets it and chills out.

 

This and save yourself the trouble and don't take her to future ultrasounds , especially since she couldn't behave at the last one...

pkate98

Swan21:

I understand it being fustrating. But, maybe this will make you feel a little better. https://www.baby2see.com/gender/study_ultrasound.html it says in this study that at 13 weeks 80% of gender were assigned correctly. That seems like pretty good odds to me. And even the scan at 20 weeks is sometimes off. HTH!

Yes, and when they say it's a boy - they're usually correct.  But I would feel the same as you and wouldn't feel 100% about it until the big u/s.

ksyknelvr73

You know, I honestly don't really even doubt this "guess" honestly, and I bet it is a boy. I just need to have the next ultrasound to 100% confirm it, and then I'll be okay calling it a "he" and things like that. But right now, I'm just not.

And you're right, no more inviting mom to ultrasounds. She got to see one, that was enough. I can show her pictures and I get DVDs from every single visit, so she can watch them later.

celestej619

That would be super frustrating. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. Hopefully after you chat with your mom she'll cool it a little bit. It's totally normal to be excited, but still...

Aubs0009

I think you have every right to be upset at her for sharing "your" news with the world. Especially since it is pretty early. I hope she understands your feelings, and takes a couple of steps back. It's hard because you know she is excited, but it is your news to share. Good luck!

njmoh

I would just tell her to stop and explain thats its early and only a guess they could be wrong and to let you just CONFIRM at the anatomy scan before you start telling people