34-36 weeker moms just a quick ?

Ehoff33

Sorry to ask this cause I might not even be in this position even though it seems pretty likely...I had DD at 36 weeks with no complications she just wanted to come early. And she came home with me 2 days later with no NICU time. Felt very lucky. This little guy tried to come over the weekend but we were able to stop labor. I did dilate to 2 cm and I'm 70% as of right now and home taking it easy. I am hoping I'm just one of those women who can walk around like this for weeks, but my OB is just hoping I make it to 35 weeks and she won't try to stop anything once I hit 35 weeks. I also got the steriod shot over the weekend just in case. My big question is how did you ladies feel going into labor at 35ish weeks? I think it's all the emmitions and guilt I have but I want this to be an exciting time for our family and DH. Where you worried the whole time while in labor or was there still some excitement?? I was not put on bedrest but I'm making myself pretty much cause I would loooove to make it to at least 36-37 weeks if I can. Sorry to ramble on about this I just trying to figure out how I should really feel about all of this. It's a lot to take in...thanks ladies!

SkypekWithoutAC

Well, my water broke completely out of the blue, and then my DD was in distress by the time we got to the hospital so I went for an emergency C-section. So yeah, I was pretty worried the whole time. However, if I had known in advance and if everything had been OK with her health, I'm sure I would have been excited! There's still a baby coming and even at 34 weeks, you're generally looking at minimal NICU time, 3 weeks tops and probably less! Some 35-weekers even go home with their moms. I hope you can keep him cooking a few more weeks, but GL regardless!

Ehoff33

SkypekWithoutAC:

Well, my water broke completely out of the blue, and then my DD was in distress by the time we got to the hospital so I went for an emergency C-section. So yeah, I was pretty worried the whole time. However, if I had known in advance and if everything had been OK with her health, I'm sure I would have been excited! There's still a baby coming and even at 34 weeks, you're generally looking at minimal NICU time, 3 weeks tops and probably less! Some 35-weekers even go home with their moms. I hope you can keep him cooking a few more weeks, but GL regardless!

Thanks! I'm very excited to meet this little guy but the emmitions of everything has me worried too. I know that my case is not nearly as bad as some moms and their LO's! I just want this little guy healthy and ready.

witt0198

I just have to say it's refreshing to hear you're trying hard to keep him in and are concerned, instead of some people we hear hoping to have LO this early, and not knowing what they're asking for.

Sticky baby thoughts to you!

Other than that, definitely celebrate your son's birth as much as you can, whenever/however it happens. This is something my husband had the wisdom to do but I didn't. He was seriously excited in the OR and had his camera out etc. I thought he'd lost his mind from the stress of the situation. Later when I talked to him about it. He said he had thought about how he wanted to remember this day, he didn't want to look back at his sons birthday and remember a lot of ugly feelings. He said even if it was for only for 5 minutes, he was going to be a dad that day, and he was excited.

 

Ehoff33

witt0198:

I just have to say it's refreshing to hear you're trying hard to keep him in and are concerned, instead of some people we hear hoping to have LO this early, and not knowing what they're asking for.

Sticky baby thoughts to you!

Other than that, definitely celebrate your son's birth as much as you can, whenever/however it happens. This is something my husband had the wisdom to do but I didn't. He was seriously excited in the OR and had his camera out etc. I thought he'd lost his mind from the stress of the situation. Later when I talked to him about it. He said he had thought about how he wanted to remember this day, he didn't want to look back at his sons birthday and remember a lot of ugly feelings. He said even if it was for only for 5 minutes, he was going to be a dad that day, and he was excited.

 

I have to say the nurses in L&D said the same thing! They thought it was awesome that I was listening to everything they asked me to do (stay in bed and drink as much water as I could) I kept saying how much I wanted to keep him cooking and even though 35 weeks I'm sure he will be fine I didn't want to see them again for a few weeks, they all loved that. Saying how most moms come in, in my same position and just complain that they are trying to stop the labor...it really shocked me! Of course I want to meet this LO but I'd much rather be posting about being 40+ weeks and uncomfortable then scared he might be coming anytime...thanks for the response I think DH will be the same...I hope!

SkypekWithoutAC

witt0198:

I just have to say it's refreshing to hear you're trying hard to keep him in and are concerned, instead of some people we hear hoping to have LO this early, and not knowing what they're asking for.

Sticky baby thoughts to you!

Other than that, definitely celebrate your son's birth as much as you can, whenever/however it happens. This is something my husband had the wisdom to do but I didn't. He was seriously excited in the OR and had his camera out etc. I thought he'd lost his mind from the stress of the situation. Later when I talked to him about it. He said he had thought about how he wanted to remember this day, he didn't want to look back at his sons birthday and remember a lot of ugly feelings. He said even if it was for only for 5 minutes, he was going to be a dad that day, and he was excited.

 

lol my DH was the same when we first found out we'd be having her that day...I think I may have told him off hahaha. I SO wish we'd had the presence of mind to grab a camera before we left the house, all we have from her birth is 2 crappy cell phone pics  

scottipino

As someone who works in healthcare and has worked in the NICU, when I was induced at 35 weeks(IUGR and low amniotic fluid) I was scared to be possibly having my DD spend time in the NICU.  However, we are all excited to know that we will meet our DD/DS soon.  We were lucky that we had no NICU time even though she was only 4lbs 1 oz when born.  Most 35 weekers do well, but there are some that need time to learn how to be a normal baby.  Goodluck! 

luvpinsanity

Hi there, I hope you are able to keep your little superhero cooking for a couple more weeks!! I had PTL with my DS at 32w (FFN +), and they were able to stop labor and I delivered him at 35w5days. My dr's notes from my DS's pregnancy are TERRIBLE, but I was 2-3cm dilated at 33w, and when they checked me four days before he was born, I was at 5cm....(no one told me that!!)

When I had my son, I did not have a camera and I didn't even have a hospital bag set up. I had a very quick labor, and well, like many of the women here, didn't expect to give birth that day, so I was unprepared. I also didn't have a lot of time to process what was happening- my son was born 45 minutes after they told me I was in labor. After things calmed down, and I was back in my own head, I was excited.

I am segmenting my worry--- I take each appointment-- each day---each week as it comes. I consider each week a "milestone" and I take myself out and do something nice-- whether it's a bath, a nice dinner, or a funnel cake... You are doing everything you can to keep your LO in, and give her the best possible chance at a healthy start in life! That is nothing to feel guilty about. In fact, you are making me feel guilty since I was halfheartedly joking with my OB when I was in L&D last week for PTL that they should just take her out now... GOOD LUCK MOMMA!!

ougrad1

I had my twins 4.5 hours short of 35 weeks and I was pumped!  Everyone was so excited that I had made it that far and honestly, I wasn't even sure that they would need NICU time because everyone was telling me how awesome it was to make it that far.

My little girl and little man have been in the NICU for a week now and will be coming home next Tuesday given everything goes as it has been.

Neither one of the babies have needed oxygen or tube feedings.  They have been there for the normal learning how to eat, keeping their body temperatures up and growing.  My little boy was 5 lbs/9 oz and my girl was 4 lbs/2 oz.  They couldn't keep their body temperatures up and lost the normal fluid weight at the beginning.  Everyday they are eating more and more which has already put the little weight they lost back on. 

We are taking them out of the warming isolettes tomorrow morning and crossing our fingers that they continue to gain weight.

You should be okay.  Even if you have the normal issues associated with a 35 weeker you're not going to have a huge NICU stay if any at all.  Relax and for sure enjoy it...you'll never get that moment back so, above all enjoy it.

 

Abeja1226

I went into labor at 35 weeks 1 day and to be honest I was in complete denial that I was even in labor.  When I finally got to L&D and the OB told me I was going to have a baby that day my first reaction was fear and nervousness...with a little bit of excitement.  My DD came out fine and was almost 6 lbs.  She stayed in the hospital 10 days and then came home.  Although it was not perfect it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

At1stsight

Even though it was a total shocker that I was in labor (I had had no complications whatsoever until the day I went into labor), everything was still very exciting. Honestly, part of that was because I was really naive and just really anxious/excited about having my first child. Regardless, I think the best approach is definitely to just take it easy like you're doing and go in with a positive attitude, whenever it happens.

DS had RDS and needed breathing interventions for the first 5 days and then needed 10 days after that to learn to eat. No one had really prepared me for those details, mostly b/c I showed up and then things just sort of were in motion; there was no time to really dwell on 'what might happen.' Our case was unusual as most 34w+ tend to do pretty well, but I didn't have steroid shots since, again, there was no forewarning. You're in the best situation you can be for 34w. GL cooking your LO as long as possible!

BreeGee

As a mom to two preemies, I know exactly what you are going through.  My first was born at 32 weeks and I was scared to death.  Not only that I was so drugged up I hardly remember his birth.  It makes me sad when I think about all the excitement and anticipation I missed.  With #2, I made it to 35 weeks.  I had a short cervix and had my bags packed at 30 weeks.  At 35 I started having contractions and wasn't even sure if I was in labor.  I went in anyway and found out I would be having a baby in the next 24 hours.  After having a 32 weeker, I was still scared but much less so.  I didn't get any shots and they didn't try to stop my labor.  Thirty-five weekers have had that extra time to bake that makes all the difference in the world.  I still feel robbed of a normal first delivery and will never get that back so I made the most of it this time around and was thrilled when I actually got to spend some time with her upon her arrival.  DD ended up getting discharged normally and had to be on a billi blanket for a few days.  It is alot to take in but you should be proud of yourself for making it this far and doing everything you can for your LO.