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My husband and I have decided we are ready to have a baby...So I quit taking my bc and now my husband thinks I should get back on it..Is it normal for men to change their minds? and can I get back on bc at any time??
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Re: Frustration
I'm sorry you're so frustrated. It's hard to give a lot of advice without more information than is in your post. I would think that it's normal for men, or just people in general, to change their minds on extremely important decisions such as having children. Maybe it's not that he's really changed his mind, maybe he's just scared. It sounds like you two need to have a serious series of conversations about why he was ready and then changed his mind. Perhaps there was something that he hadn't really thought about that, after he did some thinking, made him get cold feet.
My biggest piece of advice is don't push him. My DH was't ready for kids for a long time (he makes decisions really slowly-we dated for 3 years before he was sure he was ready to get married). I decided that I would rather wait and have him be excited about the pregnancy and child than to push him and get what I want, but have him resent me or the child later.
As for the bc, it won't hurt you to get back on it if that's what you decide to do. But, if you guys are still thinking about TTC, I would suggest you don't get back on it, just use condoms, and start charting to see if you can figure out your cycles. That way you can still feel like you're working toward the goal of getting pregnant while you two work out the timing.
Good luck!