Less "hype" with child #2 or more

autumnbride07

With our son I feel like our parents were over the moon excited for us and we received many "congrats on the pregnancy" cards. I by no means expect cards from anyone, but we haven't received any. I'm just curious if anyone else has noticed alot less hype about their 2nd child.

shouldbworkin

Yes, definitely less, especially at the beginning.  Even as a 2nd time mom I was less hyped about it.  FWIW, we didn't find out the gender the 2nd time around and it did seem to help keep things exciting for everyone.  Then again, I was having a repeat c/s, so knowing the date, time and gender seemed like it was going to take the fun out of everything.

autumnbride07

shouldbworkin:

Yes, definitely less, especially at the beginning.  Even as a 2nd time mom I was less hyped about it.  FWIW, we didn't find out the gender the 2nd time around and it did seem to help keep things exciting for everyone.  Then again, I was having a repeat c/s, so knowing the date, time and gender seemed like it was going to take the fun out of everything.

We are keeping the gender a surprise this time too! Maybe it will keep things more exciting for the family.

neerg_rose1

Definitely less hype...and now with #3 we just get OMG more kids?!  lol

agibson175

Well DD was an oops (pre marriage baby).... so I had mixed emotions at first from my family....

With Preg #2 it seemed everyone was thrilled! (but we lost that one)

So this preg.... everyone seemed alot more mellow and I got the "oh thats great" but not super enthusiastic.... but people are starting to get more excited... I think they were waiting for the first tri to get over before getting too attached to the idea (which is understandable, I have been super worried this whole time too) 

armandos_girl

I think we'll get less hype, but I'm ok with that.  My sister is getting married in a couple months and I don't want to take away from that.  We also have friends that have been trying since before we were trying with DS so I'd rather downplay things around them.

If anything, we're going to get "OMG, 2u2?!?!  You're brave, in for a ride, etc"

Brittanie_1987

I don't feel as excited as I was with DS, but I think that is b/c I know what to expect already!  But our families have been really good...we are keeping the gender a surprise as well!

niceybee05

With DS I was a teenager and not married and living at home w/my parents so needless to say at first not many ppl where excited. It was  a scary time but we have been TTC for  while now and I was so very happy so It will be a different experience this time which makes it exciting.

~adamwife~

Yep.  It was the same when #2 was born too.  I had few vistors in the hospital and even when we got back home.

etude de la vie

When MIL found out I was pg with DD she was so excited she bought a very sentimental card, a baby gift, and $200 cash (which we used for the 4D ultrasound later)

LO#2 MIL didn't even call to congratulate us for over 2 weeks!

ya.... I would say less hype but DH and I don't like hype so we are perfectly fine with it.  

masters_theater

With my several friends and family members who have more than one child what I have seen is that anyone who is having a baby of the same sex their 2nd time, then the 2nd child seems to be less exciting. But often when the first baby is one sex, and the 2nd child is the opposite sex everyone has renewed excitement. All I can say is maybe you aren't being and acting as excited and they are taking their cue from you. Just a thought, I have seen that happen too. A friend just had her 3rd kid in 4 years, this was a boy which is what her 2nd child was. She didn't go around acting all excited so people acted less excited about this new addition to their family. She didn't get another baby shower or anything like that, what she did get were gifts and cards from people after the baby was born.

onelittlemonkey

I think that with the first child, the interest of other people is not only in that child in particular, but that you are entering parenthood and starting a "family", which only happens once, so I didn't really expect the same "hype" the second time around. 

 The only thing that really sticks with me is the contrasting reactions from my in-laws.  When we told them about our first son, they cried they were so happy (and these are NOT emotional people- I was shocked).  

When we told them we were going to have a second baby they basically gave us the "was this planned?" reaction- totally different.  They're 2 years 3 months apart, pretty average, I think.  And on that same day when I mentioned having three children overall, my MIL said, three is a large family these days, like why would we do that?  Makes me want to have a third even more 

kippersophie

we're not prego yet, but I already have a 5 year old stepson, who has a couple younger sibs from his mom. And both sets of grandparents have several grandchildren, so the only one this will be a first for is me.

I'm worried it wont be special or exciting for anyone - including my husband- cause its not the first. Any thoughts? 

Sxia

While every baby is special, I think it's "more" special the first time ANYTHING happens. Otherwise, we'd be oohing and ahhing over every word the kid says when they're 10 years old.

When my first baby was born, I was also just becoming a mom. So, it was like two "births" or more, if you consider we also made other people grandparents. It was a change in role for everyone. It sucks for the second child, and the second parent. (Says the second child, but a first parent.) I really try to make sure things are equal between the stuff I did for DD and DS. And it really annoyed me when everyone was like, "try and make this one a boy." I would have loved having two girls just as much as a girl and a boy.

SPlatns

Lol, yes, totally, and just keep having them... I am about to have #4 and people just look at me like I'm ruining the world sometimes... like WHY would you do that? (Then they laugh at me with pity since its boy #4... its kinda sad how people act/react to things, I love all my boys).

 First of all, none of their business and totally an acceptable decision to have more kids... secondly, this was an unexpected baby as we thought we were done and had to do fertility treatments for the 1st 3...and this one was an 100% natural surprise...

it was a hard thing to get people to show up to a baby shower... lol  But I believe every baby deserves to be celebrated, gifts or not.  Though we had gotten rid of EVERYTHING. sigh. such is life.
Its ok. YOU be excited!!! No baby is less important than another!!!

~adamwife~

SPlatns:

Lol, yes, totally, and just keep having them... I am about to have #4 and people just look at me like I'm ruining the world sometimes... like WHY would you do that? (Then they laugh at me with pity since its boy #4... its kinda sad how people act/react to things, I love all my boys).

FOUR boys.  God bless you.  How wonderful.

I keep worrying that if this one is a boy, I don't know how we will keep enough food on the table when they are teenagers.  I have heard teenage boys are like garbage disposals and I am scared about when they will be 17, 16 and 14.  lol

SpartanGirl

Yes.  In fact the few people we've told so far about #4 have pretty much said "are you kidding me?"  That's okay.  DH and I are excited enough for everyone.  It will change once the baby is born I know. 

diana1974

I am so excited to find others who are keeping the gender a surprise. We chose to do that with our first and with our second who is due in 5 weeks. I continually got asked how people were supposed to know what to buy when I didn't know the gender. I always reply that my registry's a good place to start! LOL!

Mummybear4

Yes less Hype, and more stress over who is going to look after my other's while i give birth,  since no family in this country.  (we are expecting girl # 4 in dec.)

I hate to admit it also but the baby book's get less and less filled in once more than 1st arrive. My 3rd daughter (nearly 2) doesn't have one and i can't even remember the last time i wrote her weight down from the well check  DR's office vist. But she is well loved by her older sister's (Almost 12 and 10)  who are the mot excited about #4

AJflowers

Well, that just sealed that for me...we will not be finding out the sex with #2.  I'm hoping the up side to less hype, is less input from everyone:)

McCradyToBe

Well I feel less hype from my family than I expected or even hoped for and this is mine and DH's first!  I was so grateful when my brother (my only sibling) and his wife got PG just before me because they had been trying for a long time and succeeded with IVF and gave them two beautiful boys...and me being PG 6 months after her, my parents and family don't seem to be excited very much for us cause all of the hype is on the twins...rightly so I guess. Def hard to beat the hype of twins! hehehe  they are wonderful and i love them to bits, but my belly feels a little neglected...but would never tell anyone that! except TB of course! lol  But DH and I are so thrilled! and that's what matters!

Breerene

Unfortunately my parents are less hyped about it and so are DH's not b/c this my 2nd (his 1st) b/c his brother had a little girl last sept his parents 1st grandchild and on my side my brother is having his 1st child a month after mine, my mother seems to be the most enthused other than me that is! I had my 1st really young so this time I am married and we have our own house to do the nursery in, it makes me really excited about it, but everyone else is happy for us but not hyped!

rwilkinson1980

I can understand what you are saying, everyone was excited (or acted like it) when I initially told everyone but since then the enthusiasm has waned considerably. Only my friends and my sister are excited now, and I am two weeks away from my due date.. the only question I get is how my son is handling it. I figure that if they are not excited then that's their problem, we (my husband and I) are over the moon to be adding to our family!! And we have learned throughout this pregnancy that our friends are our family!!

FYI: we are not finding out the gender either! A lot of the reason is because they told us our first son was a girl! oops! We sure were surprised when he got here! haha!!