FB friend requests

nikinikinine

I have been getting a lot of FB friend requests from girls that are clearly on the boards - I can tell by our "mutual friends".

It kind of freaks me out that people are able to search for me by full name, or that they would recognize my name? I guess I need to do a better job of being more private? IDK. I'm only friends with a handful of nesties off the boards, and most I have met IRL?

If you sent me a request and you are on this board, please tell me your nest/bump name. I don't recognize real names or faces.

Also for those of you on FB - did you just up the ante on your privacy settings?  

 

newsbaby

How would someone be able to know your full name from here? Maybe it was through the "people you may know" thing?

LCB34

I have had an influx as well - which is weird as I have the highest security settings possible.

I guess they see me comment on someone from the board's picture, wall, etc and then can access me that way?

I don't want to be rude but, I only add people that I feel like I know from the board - and that really isn't that many people.  I feel horrible denying friend requests but, I'm not comfortable just friending anyone, you know?

 

nikinikinine

newsbaby:

How would someone be able to know your full name from here? Maybe it was through the "people you may know" thing?

that's what I wondered too! Maybe I'm a recommendation or from commenting on someone else's page? IDK. It's not that I'm upset about it, just a little worried that people I don't "know" can find me on FB. The people that send you requests are the harmless ones, it's the others that are trolls, etc. That scare me. 

I'm hoping it is just through suggested friends or something. 

newsbaby

nikinikinine:

newsbaby:

How would someone be able to know your full name from here? Maybe it was through the "people you may know" thing?

that's what I wondered too! Maybe I'm a recommendation or from commenting on someone else's page? IDK. It's not that I'm upset about it, just a little worried that people I don't "know" can find me on FB. The people that send you requests are the harmless ones, it's the others that are trolls, etc. That scare me. 

I'm hoping it is just through suggested friends or something. 

It probably is the suggested friends thing. I have gotten a few suggestions and I can pretty much figure out who the person is from here from either a siggy pic or people calling them by their first name on here.

If that is not the case, then yeah its scary. One of the reason why I hate that site and I don't use my maiden name.

EMTTessie

I agree with the others that it's prob. the suggested friends. They could also be finding you if you are friends with someone who has a lot of nestie/bumpie friends. I've seen on someone else's page a bunch of IF girls that I know, but I didn't just start sending friend requests to them. Also if I had I think it would have been common curtesy to include my Bump name so that they knew for sure who the heck I was.

I haven't messed with my security settings in awhile, but with being pg and then having baby pics up in a few months I am thinking of checking them out again.

madelyn07

nikinikinine:

newsbaby:

How would someone be able to know your full name from here? Maybe it was through the "people you may know" thing?

that's what I wondered too! Maybe I'm a recommendation or from commenting on someone else's page? IDK. It's not that I'm upset about it, just a little worried that people I don't "know" can find me on FB. The people that send you requests are the harmless ones, it's the others that are trolls, etc. That scare me. 

I'm hoping it is just through suggested friends or something. 

Niki...we aren't friends on FB but we do have a lot of the same friends and you do keep popping up in my "people you may know" thing on the side...I see your name and pic pretty much every day. And I know it is you b/c of you posting your s/n on the IF group page in the past. I'm not a creepy stalker...promise! 

Whitney0708

I don't really have this problem, but it's a good reminder to keep your privacy settings strict and edit my friend list! 

ALY1981

I do have some bump friends on FB and am happy to have them all   but I don't really have a lot of requests.  I'm not sure how they would be able to find you?  hmm.   I have pretty high privacy settings though!  (avoiding gossipy co-workers)

nikinikinine

madelyn07:

nikinikinine:

newsbaby:

How would someone be able to know your full name from here? Maybe it was through the "people you may know" thing?

that's what I wondered too! Maybe I'm a recommendation or from commenting on someone else's page? IDK. It's not that I'm upset about it, just a little worried that people I don't "know" can find me on FB. The people that send you requests are the harmless ones, it's the others that are trolls, etc. That scare me. 

I'm hoping it is just through suggested friends or something. 

Niki...we aren't friends on FB but we do have a lot of the same friends and you do keep popping up in my "people you may know" thing on the side...I see your name and pic pretty much every day. And I know it is you b/c of you posting your s/n on the IF group page in the past. I'm not a creepy stalker...promise! 

Ha ha, I know you're not a creepy stalker. But I totally wish I hadn't signed up for the FB group. Even though I deleted myself I'm not sure that my past posts have disappeared from that page

Thanks for at least giving me a head's up as to where the recs may have come from!  

AimeeL85

I recognize you on FB just because of our mutual friends and then because I recognize you in your profile pic from a pic I saw of an IF GTG, otherwise I would def never know how to search for you or know your last name.

BTW I would have added you but I never know who wants to be FB friends with IFers esp if they haven't met them IRL so I usually just wait for people to request me lol

nikinikinine

AimeeL85:

I recognize you on FB just because of our mutual friends and then because I recognize you in your profile pic from a pic I saw of an IF GTG, otherwise I would def never know how to search for you or know your last name.

BTW I would have added you but I never know who wants to be FB friends with IFers esp if they haven't met them IRL so I usually just wait for people to request me lol

ahhh, that makes sense too. I never even thought about the GTG. I just assumed since we weren't tagged in the pics that it was still somewhat anon. Interesting. Thanks for letting me know. And since I've "known" you for two years a request from you wouldn't have freaked me out either LOL.  

AimeeL85

nikinikinine:

AimeeL85:

I recognize you on FB just because of our mutual friends and then because I recognize you in your profile pic from a pic I saw of an IF GTG, otherwise I would def never know how to search for you or know your last name.

BTW I would have added you but I never know who wants to be FB friends with IFers esp if they haven't met them IRL so I usually just wait for people to request me lol

ahhh, that makes sense too. I never even thought about the GTG. I just assumed since we weren't tagged in the pics that it was still somewhat anon. Interesting. Thanks for letting me know. And since I've "known" you for two years a request from you wouldn't have freaked me out either LOL.  

Yep I remembered a picture from a GTG where someone had written who everyone was so that was just what made me sure it was you when I saw our mutual friends, otherwise I wouldn't have known if it was you or one of the other niki's. 

I am actually friends with a few people who requested me that I know are from the IF board but I have no idea what their bump name is and I've never asked "ummm who exactly are you?" haha

nikinikinine

that's too funny! I don't know anyone without their sn, it's like a dorky secret society we are all in. OMG.

GenRN45

i know my security settings are as high as they can possibly be. The only way someone can find me is if we have a mutual friend.

If you have a mutual friend, and someone searches that person's friends to find people they know, I will come up. They won't see anything other than my name, but it still comes up - and i'll be honest. I hate it.

I'm the same as LCB. I don't "friend" just anyone, and if I don't feel like we're "friends" here, then odds are i'm not going to friend you on facebook. And if you do send me a request, and don't let me know what your screen name is, and I DONT' recognize your IRL name, I'll definitely click ignore.

It's nothing personal, but my settings are the way they are for a reason. I DO like my privacy. 

kthappy76

Hey Niki,  I would say mutual friends as FB is really amping up their matching algorithms and nothing is really private on FB.   I'm always amazed what I can see of friend's friends when they have commented on their postings.  Also remember that anyone here has access to your blog, which is not exactly anonymous.