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I need that book - the one for moms that yell

xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
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what's it called again?

 

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Re: I need that book - the one for moms that yell

  • mylove2005mylove2005
    I don't know but I can not wait for the response because I was going to post the same thing
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    hello? femme, Hiker, zenya...you people that are always raving about htis book, I am talking to you!
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  • YodajoYodajo member

    Screamfree Parenting

    How to Talk So Kids Will Listen

    Kids Are Worth It

    Any of those sound familiar?  I have them all, but have only read the first one so far.

     

    DS1 10-06 and DS2 9-08 and baby #3 EDD 9-05-12
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  • femmegemfemmegem member
    I've read and liked How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Kids Are Worth It. Mot sure if you're talking about one of those, but I found both helpful. I also borrowed a book from A's teachers called something about Time Out (Time Out for Parents or something?) that talked a lot about being more in touch with your own emotions so that you don't store it all up and then explode at your kids. I really liked that and it was a super easy read.
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  • ZenyaZenya member
    how to talk so kids will listen is the one i have mentioned!  But I think maybe you're talking about screamfree parenting which I have not read but gets great reviews (and I couldn't remember the name until yodajo said it...)
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  • femmegemfemmegem member
    Here's the last book I talked about:https://www.amazon.com/Time-Out-Parents-Guide-Compassionate-Parenting/dp/0971030936/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1280940213&sr=1-1
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    thanks girls! I will check out all the recs.
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  • wildfloweragainwildfloweragain member
    Another one that's been recommended to me is "The Power of our Words."  Not sure of the author but another teacher is dropping it in my mailbox soon.
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  • peekaboo716peekaboo716 member

    I think auntie always recommends one too.

    I am so going to get a couple of books too. I am raising my voice WAY too much.

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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    I've never read a parenting book or anything of the sort but obviously, my way isn't working so I am willing to see what the experts have to say.
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  • SumnerBrideSumnerBride

    imagexbrooklyngrl:
    I've never read a parenting book or anything of the sort but obviously, my way isn't working so I am willing to see what the experts have to say.

    I've read all of those books mentioned, and I still find it a struggle not to yell.  I hope you have a good experience with them.  For me, it's a lot of work.  Like, A LOT of work.  I find myself a lot of times just not saying at all because I'm afraid of yelling.  And that's not super effective either.

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  • femmegemfemmegem member
    Ditto Sumner. The advice is helpful, but it's still hard not to slip back into yelling. And I do. And I spanked A for the fourth time a few days ago, something I had never thought I'd do. It's a constant struggle for me. :(
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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member
    Who is the author of How to talk so your kids will listen? I think I found 2 different one's.
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  • femmegemfemmegem member

    imageemilykristene2006:
    Who is the author of How to talk so your kids will listen? I think I found 2 different one's.

    Faber and Mazlish. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960

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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member
    Thank you!
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  • JayleaJaylea

    I read Screamfree Parenting.

    I didn't find it to be all that helpful. I suppose it was okay, but it wasn't really telling me anything I didn't already know. My problem is that I yell when I'm tired, or DD isn't listening - just knowing that, and knowingly focusing on NOT doing it is the most successful.

    However, since being pregnant, I have been struggling with not yelling. It's a work in progress.

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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl

    See Jay I'm kind of the same way. I know when/why I do it. I'm a control freak and when she doesn't want to do something MY way or I have to say something for the 4th time...I'm done. In reality, why the F do I need to say it 4 effin times? But really, I know she's FOUR FOUR FOUR. This is what I have to remind myself (and am always reminded by DH).

    I just don't want to screw up my kid with my big stupid mouth. I want to be calm and patient like DH is :)

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  • DimplzDimplz member
    imagexbrooklyngrl:

    See Jay I'm kind of the same way. I know when/why I do it. I'm a control freak and when she doesn't want to do something MY way or I have to say something for the 4th time...I'm done. In reality, why the F do I need to say it 4 effin times? But really, I know she's FOUR FOUR FOUR. This is what I have to remind myself (and am always reminded by DH).

    I just don't want to screw up my kid with my big stupid mouth. I want to be calm and patient like DH is :)

    OMG I could've written this word for word! Also I tend to lose my stuff when I ask DS to do something and it's an instant tantrum. When are tantrums over again?? LOL

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