Seriously?!?!?!!!

KatieD2

I was having a perfectly normal day today.  I was in the shower this afternoon and my dh came in and said that my brother and his wife were there.  This was really random.  They don't usually just drop by.  I finished my shower and while I was getting dressed I thought to myself that they were there to tell us they're pregnant.  Well guess what... that's exactly what happened.  I handled it really well when they told us; said my congratulations; smiled; hugged, etc.  As soon as they left my DH and I both broke down into tears.  Why does a newly wed couple get to have a baby when my DH and I have been trying for 1 1/2 years and have no success?!?!?  I know there are many of you that have been trying for way longer than us.  IT'S JUST NOT FAIR!!!!!!!  It's all I can think about.  I'm happy for them, but so sad for all of us that are struggling to conceive.  What do we need to do to get our chance at success and happiness???  How do I get this out of my mind and just accept the fact that it really happened?  Their's will be the first grandchild for my parents.  I wanted to have the first.  SO. NOT. FAIR.

Hels

I could have written this post. I think we've all been there at one point or another. And, you are right, it's not fair. It pretty much freakin' sucks.

Hang in there! 

jpuranen79

awww so sorry hunny. i feel ya my brother and sister in law are trying for the 2nd since i have been trying. so they get 2 and i get 0. and hearing my mother go on for hours how great they are bc they gave her grandchildren is just fantastic. I am so sorry for what you are going through. Honestly there is nothing out there to take that pain away until after the baby is born then you will love it and be glad you have a niece/ nephew. hang in there, i feel your frustration. I dread every phone call from my brother expecting its going to be "the one". life is so not fair

AKB8208

I'm sorry hun.  I completely went through this when my brother and SIL told everyone they were pregnant...on accident...while she was on BC. 

Fortuantely my SIL is amazing and has always been supportive to me.  I'm in love with my neice but it just sucks that it was so easy for them....and so hard for us.

 There's really nothing good to say right now but i'm sorry.....

copfiremanbride

I am so sorry. I can't believe they came over to announce there pregnancy to you knowing you have been ttc for 1.5 yrs. That was very rude of them. Hang in there... keep praying and researching.. your baby will be very special to you because of your determination... and your right.. it is not fair..

Charlotte1776

I don't think it was rude of them to stop by and say they were pregnant. What did you expect them to do? Not tell them at all? How do you think they would have felt if they had to hear the news second hand because the relatives couldn't be bothered to tell them directly? Telling the news in person rather than in a phone call is more polite and shows how important they are to them. It is not easy to know how to talk to someone who is struggling with fertility. I am sure they thought a lot about what do to and say and tried to keep their feelings in mind when telling the news.

Though I understand how sad and upsetting it is to hear about pregnancies when you are trying to concieve. I was hoping to be the first one to give my mother in law a grandchild (particularly a grandaughter because she said she likes girls better than boys), but my sister in law beat me to it. And she ended up having a girl! I haven't been trying for too many months, but each month that goes by is frustrating and heartbreaking.

KatieD2

I do appreciate them coming to tell us.  I would have been more upset if I had learned from someone else or on facebook (like I did with my husband's sister).  I'm sure it was hard for them to tell us because they know what all we are going through.  It still sucks though.  I can't help but be jealous.  Someone asked my brother a couple months ago when they were going to have kids and he said it was "his sister's turn first".  I guess he changed his mind.  Everytime I think about them being pregnant and us not it makes me cringe. 

inlovewithB

I am so sorry! I understand how much it hurts. My brother and sister had babies this year within six weeks of each other. It is so hard to talk to them on the phone and hear them complain about how hard it is and how tired they are.

Landy83

GIRL i so feel your pain. my SIL is 5 yrs younger than us and she sent us a card a couple months ago and said she was PG with #2. it was so hard. its just like soooo unfair but i guess everthing happens for a reason just hard to accept. it seems all our friends are PG too. its hard to get thru. and yea it was pry good they came and told you even though it was hard. you would have felt bad hearing thru FB or someone else. good luck to you guys.