Do I let him out of the doghouse?

S&D_2005

I posted in FFC that DH told me he would take me on a picnic for my birthday yesterday, and we didn't end up going because he didn't "have time to plan it". I was under the impression that we were going up until 7:30, when I figured it was too late. I haven't been talking to him since last night. The few times he's called me today, I haven't said much during our conversations, just answering whatever question it was, and then letting him go. Now he calls me and says he wants to take me to the movies, and then go for a walk. I'm still upset. I told him I would see how I felt after my appointment. Should I let him try to make it up to me, or continue being a ***? This isn't the first time he's glazed over a birthday or anniversary. I'm getting sick of it. Apart from this, he's a great husband and an amazing father. But I just feel like I'm not appreciated sometimes.

Sorry. Vent over. 

greenclown

Not talking to him is not very productive.  He's not a mind reader, and if you don't tell him that you're upset and why, he's never going to get it.  Explain it, hopefully he'll make it up to you, and move on.  I'm sorry he didn't do anything, but he probably has no idea how much that hurt you.

Lambie.

Sounds like you're going overboard to me.  Give him a chance to make it right.

Penelope Drake

I would let him try to make it up to you.  If you go on being mad, then neither of you will have a good night.  At least this way, your evening is somewhat salvagable and you might even enjoy yourself while he makes it up to you.

But I agree with GC as well...make sure he knows how hurt you were by his lack of attention to your birthday.

S&D_2005

greenclown:

Not talking to him is not very productive.  He's not a mind reader, and if you don't tell him that you're upset and why, he's never going to get it.  Explain it, hopefully he'll make it up to you, and move on.  I'm sorry he didn't do anything, but he probably has no idea how much that hurt you.

You're right, it isn't productive. I just don't want to have the same conversation with him. Its the same thing for birthdays and anniversaries. He doesn't do anything, I get upset, I tell him how I feel, he apologizes, and then its the same thing all over again for the next occasion. Its just annoying. Its not that I don't tell him it bother me, I just think he doesn't care. I don't understand it. I don't expect diamonds, or trips to Milan or anything like that. Just something to show that he thought of me.

S&D_2005

Lambie.:

Sounds like you're going overboard to me.  Give him a chance to make it right.

I'm not going overboard when he does the same thing every time. Even after me telling him I'm upset, it doesn't change.