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akalutts
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I was bad (clicky poll)
akalutts
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I googled. I shouldn't have, but I did, and now I need to know. DH has always seemed on the low side compared to previous partners. "Normal" is listed as 1/2 -1 teaspoon. He has never, ever, ever put out that much. Once in a blue moon he might get close to 1/2 teaspoon, but most often he is around 1/4t or less. And he only "puts out" on average twice a week. [Poll]
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Re: I was bad (clicky poll)
From my DH's Seman Analysis, I know that DH's volume is half what they like to see.
When we had the SA, there wasn't much in the cup. It didn't help that the cup was HUGE so this little bit in there really hurt his ego.
But it's not the quantity that matters, it's the quality. Even though he didn't produce much overall semen, his sperm are "better than normal" according to my doctor.
Way to blame it all on me, doc!
ETA: Well, I should have worded that better. Quantity does matter, but not quite as much as the quality of the sperm.
I totally get that I am worrying WAYYYYYYY to early, and that I need to cool it. However, he is going to be 50 very soon, and I know that output can go down as a man ages due to an enlarging prostate. I am just starting to think I should ask him to go in for a physical soon and get his prostate checked. It's been a few years since he's had it done, so it's time anyway. If they feel it is enlarged, it would get the conversation started a little earlier to find out if there is an actual output issue.
I only know it in ml's from his sa's, but it's been between 3.5 and 4ml every time.
I'm a big fan of sending the H's to the urologist just for funsies. I figure, look, I am getting probed regularly, I give myself shots that make me even more bitchy than normal, you can go have one invasive appt.
My H's count and volume are fine. The quality is in the toilet. So on the 10th he gets to go get probed. And then, if his manhood hasn't been too terribly damaged, we will go out for dinner. I'm actually really hoping things work out just so, so that we will have the next iui and her appt on the same day, since they are both in the same town, and that town is a bit of a drive. I get probed in the morning, he gets probed in the afternoon.
Please make your H go get a physical and have his prostate checked.
That saved my grandpa's life.
His dad survived prostate cancer, so I know it's on his mind. It's certainly a slow cancer, but not a possibility to ignore. He has a few appointments coming up as he is having cortizone shots in his shoulders next month, then foot surgery in early Sept. I will try to get him to make an appt for a physical before the surgery.
1/2 tsp is 2.5ml
1tsp is 5ml, so he is right in between - above average :P
I literally made him lay there while I scooped it up and measured it today. Didn't even fill the 1/4 tsp
Although it is a slow cancer, it is something to be concerned about--especially since it's in his immediate family.
My grandpa was diagnosed stage 2 when it was found (this has been at least 5 years now). He had surgery and some other treatments (not sure what, we were all kind of kept in the dark about it) and has been in remission ever since. Right after he went into remission, one of his good friends was also diagnosed with stage 2. They did the surgery and everything, but he passed away.
Your H should be having a check every year, especially with 50 approaching.
What's going on with the foot surgery? Any reason he'd have to go in before?
Sorry, I LOLed. I got a mental picture of him in his birthday suit with this WTF look on his face while you scoop up semen with measuring spoons from the kitchen.
His count and volume are the only reasons we don't have to do ivf. His motility is 20% and his crit morph is 2%. He had *great* sperm when we were trying to have Z. We have no idea what happened.
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See, and I was imaging her scooping out of her vagina. You little ml vials, missy!
No real reason to do it before the surgery other than my impatience, and he won't want to go in after until the foot is totally healed (6-8 weeks, which puts us in November.)
It's probably only been 2 years since he's had his prostate checked, but I would really like him to mention the qty issue to his PCP. He's very pro-active, and would probably send him in for an SA if he feels it is on the low side.
It's hard- with women testing starts earlier because they literally only have so many years in which to bear children. Since men can spawn until they croak, there seems to be no need to test earlier. What about that he is just plain old (I tease) and identifying an issue now might let us move forward before he reaches an age where he changes his mind about trying at all?
I mostly am a worry wart, and I'm sure I'll look back and roll my eyes at myself. It's just a nagging little voice I can't quiet.
LOL, that's exactly what happened.
Normally I'd say you're off your rocker and you just want an SA because you're too impatient to wait your turn.
However, considering his age and family history, I think it's important for him to bring it up to his PCP so that any concerns Doc has can be addressed in a timely manner and not waste your time.
Worry wart or not, you have valid concerns and they should be investigated.
Thanks ladies. I will leave it in the hands of his PCP for sure (haha) and cross any further bridges if we get to them. I know DH will make the appointment if I ask, but he may hesitate to ask about the output issue.
I'm going to go sleep on it and hope the right words come to me convince him to ask. Heck, he could probably email the doc ahead of time and ask the output question- our PCP rocks at answering questions by email. That might be the solution right there.
Sweet dreams
Have him get checked out and it'll help put both your minds at rest. No matter which way it goes (he's fine or there is an issue), at least you'll know and be able to take the proper steps.
I did chuckle to myself picturing you scooping it up and measuring it. Don't forget that you won't have gotten it all. Try not to get too worried until you have some confirmation.